For a school project this year, I have had the honor of getting to know The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter-day Saints. Even though I am not religious, they have been kind, respectful, and welcoming to me.
However, one conversation threw me off. I was told that they don’t recognize same-sex marriage. The church doesn’t accept it, and they don’t think it’s what will make someone happy in life. Despite this principle, the church chooses to love same-sex couples regardless.
How do you make sense of that?
When I was told this, I knew it wasn’t my place to start an argument. I was just there to learn and observe, not to change anyone’s mind. On the other hand, I do have access to Her Campus as a platform where I can use my voice. So this is a poem for the queer community and for anyone who shares their belief—for anyone who (I’m sorry to say) is on the wrong side of history.
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Not men or women
Not skirts or pants
Not gender-specific at all
Simply just love
Regardless of gender
I chose love
And therefore I chose acceptance
Say you love me still
If that makes you sleep at night
Keep using unfair arguments
If you think it will get you to heaven
But know this:
For the longest time, I didn’t accept
Not others
But myself
For the longest, I didn’t love
Not others
But myself
Shame, secrets, wrong
Wrong, wrong, wrong
Was what I told myself
Is what you preach
Attacking my identity
My whole integrity
And I do blame you
While I wish I didn’t have to
So make a stand
Make a choice
I’m sorry you can’t do both
I’m sorry you can’t hide anymore
But this is our time
The oppressed
We demand: either you accept and love, or you walk away and say goodbye.