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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UC Berkeley chapter.

“When I get sad, I stop being sad and decide to be awesome instead.”

Barney Stinson

 

    I usually ignore the feelings in my gut telling me that I’m more sad some days that others, because it’s easier to ignore them than to face them; at this point in life I’m a little too busy to get ‘lost in my feels’ to use the common term. But I’ve also noticed that some people seem to bring out the negativity in those that are around them. Some people are a little too in touch with their emotions. It’s completely fine to know how you feel, as long as you’re prepared to do what you can to change the negative emotions you have attached to what you feel.

    And you’ll be able to tell when people can’t handle their emotions because they will get sad at the worst moments. When someone constantly gets sad when alcohol is involved–there is a problem. If you find your friends are constantly sad, but even worse when alcohol is involved, what are you supposed to do? How can you have a conversation with someone about a problem that you don’t even know if they have?

    I’ve tried. I’ve tried reaching out and saying that if you can’t be happy sober drinking alcohol is only going to make that worse. But sometimes the person is too far away from what they are doing to themselves and they will not listen. You need to be able to step back and pull yourself away from the situation. If someone is unhealthy for you to be around it is completely fair for you to not be around them.

    And at this stage in life it is nearly impossible to tell someone that you think they need to change a behavior that they are doing. You’re too young to know what’s good for you, let alone to make decisions about what is good for someone else. This is good advice to remember one for when you are trying to communicate to others, and two for when others try to communicate with you.

    At this moment, and in these four years at undergrad you are finally completely alone. Your morals will be up in the air, and your actions may not always represent who you want to be as a person. You can’t try to control anyone but yourself and your own emotions. It’s important to remember that–people will only accept help when they admit to themselves that they need help.

    Sometimes you have to let people figure out what they need to feel happier by themselves because otherwise you’ll end up drowning in your feels with them instead of wading around with your head above water.

 

UC Berkeley class of 2021. My heart is in the mountains, and with any corgi I see. I'm interested in writing, yoga, running, hiking, boxing, playing piano, music, adventures, and studying psychology and anthropology.
Melody A. Chang

UC Berkeley '19

As a senior undergraduate, I seek out all opportunities that expand my horizons, with the aim of developing professionally and deepening my vision of how I can positively impact the world around me. While most of my career aims revolve around healthcare and medicine, I enjoy producing content that is informative, engaging, and motivating.  In the past few years, I have immersed myself in the health field through working at a private surgical clinic, refining my skills as a research assistant in both wet-lab and clinical settings, shadowing surgeons in a hospital abroad, serving different communities with health-oriented nonprofits, and currently, exploring the pharmaceutical industry through an internship in clinical operations.  Career goals aside, I place my whole mind and soul in everything that I pursue whether that be interacting with patients in hospice, consistently improving in fitness PR’s, tutoring children in piano, or engaging my creativity through the arts. Given all the individuals that I have yet to learn from and all the opportunities that I have yet to encounter in this journey, I recognize that I have much room and capacity for growth. Her Campus is a platform that challenges me to consistently engage with my community and to simultaneously cultivate self-expression.