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ON MAINTAINING HOMETOWN FRIENDSHIPS IN COLLEGE

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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UC Berkeley chapter.

Meeting new people in college is one of the most thrilling aspects of entering unfamiliar territory. It offers a chance to embark on a new chapter in life and broaden your social circle beyond your high school and childhood friends. However, along with this excitement comes a significant challenge: the physical distance from the relationships you’ve nurtured over the years. 

These friends have supported you through every awkward moment, cheered on your achievements, and comforted you during tough times. With this, juggling busy schedules, forming new friendships, and navigating adulthood can make it seem daunting to keep those connections alive.

Despite these challenges, maintaining hometown friendships is a vital effort worth the time. Even if you’ve established a solid group of friends in college, your relationships from home provide a necessary link to your past and help you stay grounded as you evolve. Ultimately, they provide emotional support related to your past, current experiences, and hopes for the future.

That said, nurturing these friendships isn’t always straightforward. The distance and different paths you’re on can make it challenging to stay connected. While you’re busy joining clubs, rushing sororities, or tackling challenging courses, your hometown friends are navigating their own journeys, often far removed from yours.

Then there’s the reality of shifting priorities. College friendships can feel more immediate and convenient while keeping in touch with friends from home requires extra effort. Nevertheless, with a sprinkle of effort, you can overcome these obstacles and ensure your hometown friendships continue to thrive.

Staying connected doesn’t have to be complicated. Set aside time for regular check-ins, whether that’s a weekly FaceTime session or a quick text to update each other on your week. Scheduling these moments makes staying in touch feel like a priority, not an afterthought.

While text messages and video calls are convenient, other creative ways to nurture these friendships also exist. For example, you can write a wholesome letter or send a care package with little goodies for birthdays, Christmas, or just because. These thoughtful gestures will definitely transmit your love and care in ways that messages over a device can’t.

Ultimately, one of the toughest challenges of maintaining friendships is recognizing that both of you will inevitably grow and change over time. Instead of letting these changes create distance between you, embrace them. You can do this by celebrating each other’s achievements, even from afar, by trying to stay connected through these resources. Such friendships should not be taken for granted. Instead, they should be preserved for as long as possible.

Isabella Merino

UC Berkeley '26

Isabella is a junior at UC Berkeley majoring in Media Studies and English with a minor in Journalism. She hopes to one day be a professional journalism in the entertainment field. In her spare time, Isabella loves to read, write, make crafts, and binge an unhealthy amount of television and film! You can catch Isabella with an almond milk matcha latte in hand, listening to music 24/7, or scrapbooking.