When you’re hurting, do you feel your pain? Not just tell yourself that you’re hurt, but do you actually and honestly allow yourself to feel your pain? The world as we know it teaches us to hide and bury our pain, but we all know what happens when we do that. We explode when the pain gets to a breaking point and it becomes a cycle of everyone spreading their pain to each other, rather than their love.
Ever since I was a child, I was taught that the emotions I felt when I was sad, angry, or hurt were all collectively felt because I was a sensitive child. I carried this belief with me until my early adulthood and found that because I thought I was a sensitive person that my negative emotions were mundane and unnecessarily felt. When in reality, they’re emotions that we feel so that we can grow and more importantly, heal from the pain. Without feeling your pain, you don’t feel anything.
It is a disservice to your well being and development as a human. Humans are meant to grow and learn constantly, even in the most uncomfortable situations. We feel uncomfortable when our state of minds are catalyzed by an emotion that brings our minds out of balance. When that imbalance is felt, we act out on pain. Instead of expressing your pain, you spread your pain to others. For instance, do you remember the last time you blew up at a friend or family member? What made you blow up? I bet it was the fact you held all your emotions inside without allowing them to be expressed. I know that we’re taught and expected, almost obligated to not put out negativity in the world. Letting yourself feel anger and sadness is not putting negativity out in the world. It’s being honest with your feelings and emotions as a person. It validates that you’re allowed to feel emotions that make you human.
