Going through fall sorority recruitment as a freshman was, like for almost everyone else, a nervous and exciting experience. I ran home to an organization that was the perfect fit for me, and a short time after that I met the girl who is currently my big. We immediately hit it off and knew there would be a life long friendship. Seeing her face on Big/Little Reveal, I ran into her arms which was one of my happiest sorority memories thus far.
Fast forward to sorority recruitment this year, I was on the other side of things this time. Talking to women each day of recruitment and working hard with my sisters to find the perfect women to join our sisterhood. My organization’s current new member class is full of incredible, beautiful and intelligent women, all of whom I adore. Creating better friendships with them each day, I know they are important women. However, when it comes to the topic of finding the “perfect” little for my line, I was originally being picky. I had created an image in my head of a person who had certain hobbies or the same major as myself or lives in a certain place or is a certain age. Of course, this person was unrealistic. I had failed to think about the immediate connection my big and I had the first time we met and failed to try and find that when talking to the new members.
The “perfect” addition to a line is about finding a person you love and will have a great relationship with. It’s not that I didn’t look for a little, and it’s not that I didn’t love all of the new members I had hung out with, I just didn’t feel like a big sister or mentor to any of them. At first I was upset. I thought I was doing something wrong and wasn’t putting in enough effort. I then realized that I wasn’t doing anything wrong at all. I just didn’t feel like a big sister to any of them, just a great friend. I’ve learned that I am completely okay with that. I am okay with that because I know that waiting to take a little will allow me to find a woman to be the next addition to my line that will look up to me and will make me feel the same way as when I met my Big. “The best things come to those who wait” is exactly how I feel, and I can not wait to find my perfect little in the future.
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