We all have a best friend. That one person you share everything with, spend countless hours laughing and talking to, and that person you can count on no matter what. You’ve been there for each other when you had your first date, first boyfriend, and first heartbreak. New relationships can be tough, but having your best friend to talk to seems to make things go more smoothly. And as every girl knows, your best friend’s boyfriend needs to go through the approval period, because we know that when she has a new boyfriend, it’s not just her life he’s going to be in – it’s yours, too. So what happens when you realize that you can’t stand to be in the same room with each other?
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As girls, we tend to be a bit overprotective of our close friends. They mean so much to us that we don’t want anyone to hurt them, and we believe any guy isn’t good enough. So when they start to show interest in a guy, we can already start finding faults in him. His head is too big, or he lives at home, which must mean he has no motivation. Before you start planning on how to get your friend from dating this “loser”, take a step back. There is a reason why she is interested in him, even if you don’t see it. Her judgment can’t be all that bad – after all, she chose you as her best friend.
But what about those times when he really is a jerk? Her wanting to be with him can put a strain on your relationship. You see the way he looks at other girls, makes offensive comments, and is constantly bringing a negative attitude. But trying to tell your friend this is like trying to tell Tyra Banks that Americas Next Top Model is dying: she knows it, but believes things will turn around. In this situation you find your friendship being tested. You may think if she really cared for you she would listen to your advice, or better yet, take it. But sometimes we have to step in her shoes. You may not know what their relationship is like behind closed doors. He may be a perfect gentlemen – doubtful, but possible. And even if he’s not, then you have to stick it out. After all, aren’t best friends going to have highs and lows? Well, this guy is a low. But being able to stick by your friend is what she’s going to remember when she comes to realize the truth, and you can both belt out “Single Ladies” by Beyonce.
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When the time comes when you hate your best friends boyfriend, try to keep comfort in the fact that, someday, they will most likely break things off – the other alternative is marriage – and that might be too scary to think about. So keep your head up and cherish your best friend, because there may be a time when she, too, needs to read this article for you. But being able to say that your friendship survived the boyfriend-from-hell will only make your relationship stronger. Because honestly, where would we be without our best friends?