There’s Always Those People: The Ones that Dislike You For No Reason

There will always be THOSE people; the people who dislike you just because they can. To some people, it is extremely important how others percieve them and they want to do right by everyone. It’s completely understandable to want to be on people’s good side and want to impress those whom you meet, however, no matter what you do in life, there will always be at least a person or two that feels like “there’s just something about you” that they don’t like. Even if you go along with a smile on your face, doing good deeds endlessly, being a contributing member of society, someone out there will find a reason to hate on you. We all judge each other, whether we’ll admit it or not and only one negative instance or encounter can change someone’s opinion of you, but in the end it doesn’t really matter. For this reason exactly is why I decided to write about how you can ignore these unfortunate people who don’t realize your greatness and rise above their opinions. 

It’s easier said than done to not care what others think of you, especially if gossip is being spread around or hurtful rumors have been started about you. However, by remembering all of your amazing qualities that are positive and thinking about your friends and family who actually know you well enough to form an opinion, you’ll find yourself realizing that these outsider’s perceptions of you lack in comparison to those who have truly gotten to know you and appreciate you. 

Another way of remembering your importance and self-worth is to simply take the time to tell yourself. Even if a few people don’t like you, it doesn’t really matter because you love yourself. Through making a list of qualities you hold that you appreciate or ohysical traits that you enjoy, you can have a little piece of evidence as to how great you are and it will be a small confidence booster when you find yourself needing a pick-me-up. 

Spending quality time working on yourself as a person will also help in making you the best version of yourself so that the haters can see how great you’re doing. For example, exercising, eating healthy, focusing on your career and picking up hobbies that benefit not only you, but those less fortunate are ways to distract you from the negativity and the judgement. Through focusing on yourself and what you truly want out of life, you’ll be so busy rocking at everything that you won’t even notice anyone else’s comments or opinions. 

Here’s a tip as well: making sure to take the time out to think about and appreciate those people who do think highly of you. It’s important to surround yourself with people who will support and build you up, not insult or tear you down.  There will be people who don’t like you because you’re too skinny, you’re too thick, you’re too nice, you’re too sassy or whatever it is, but they pale in comparison to your supporters who notice the best in you and help bring that out. 

Through it all, also remember that you are unique and there is no other you than yourself so people are going to have to take it or leave it. There’s no reason to change who you are to please anyone because in the end, they won’t be worth the changes made and they are most likely only temporary. Let your accomplishments, self improvement and hard work do the talking as far as people’s perceptions of you and don’t get caught up in hate, anger, negativity or judgements. Learning to not care what others think will begin to become more natural and even if you care deeply of what others are saying about you, know that at least some of it is good. 

Rest assured that if you remember all of your amazing qualities, surround yourself with positivity and a great support system and focus on your goals and dreams, no one’s opinion of you can hinder your desire to be great and to realize your own greatness. 

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