What It’s Like Being the “Cool Girlfriend”

Hi, it’s me. The cool girlfriend. I don’t like conflict, and I don’t like speaking up when things aren’t going the way I’d like. I’d much rather avoid the situation entirely.

I know you canceled plans and it hurt me, but I won’t say anything. Repressed emotion is the best emotion, am I right? 

You left me on “read” for three days? It’s all good. I’m sure you were busy. It’s okay. Effort isn’t required here.

I wish I knew what you were up to. Your vague responses aggravate me, but I won’t show it. If I question you, you’ll say I’m not being “cool.” 

You don’t bring me around your friends. You haven’t introduced me to your family. It’s all good, though. The cool girlfriend doesn’t mind.

It’s my birthday. You forgot. Again. I’m not getting any younger, but you’ve just got a lot on your mind. I understand. 

We don’t spend much time together anymore. When we do, you’re playing video games or on your phone. Screen time is me time, right? 

I wish I knew how you felt about me. I don’t feel seen. But I won’t say it. That’s not what the cool girlfriend would do. 

I might break, but I can’t. I can’t mess this up. Things feel so right…sometimes. That’s what the cool girlfriend wants.

I can’t be the cool girlfriend much longer. I know I deserve better. I know I deserve effort.

But I’m the cool girlfriend. I let it slide. 

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