As we walk from class to class—through the student union, across memory mall, even in the gym—we see those couples walking hand-in-hand. Smiling, laughing, and gazing into each other’s eyes. Some of us think it’s cute. Most of us think it’s gross. Some of us are jealous. Most of us are happy to be single.
But everyone wishes for it—that feeling of being wanted by someone you’re crushing on. In college especially, that feeling can easily make you constantly happy. But sometimes, when that feeling is no longer there, you feel worse than you would if you were single and not talking to anyone. This leaves us with one question, is a relationship really worth it while you’re in college? Or is it better to take college as a learning experience to find yourself without relying on someone else and to avoid getting hurt?
Let’s see what some of our fellow collegiettes say:
Do you think it’s better to be single or in a relationship during college? Why?
“Single. You shouldn’t have something in college that takes up more time than your school does.” –Mark Henderson, senior
“Single. When you’re older and look back at your college experience, you’re going to remember the times you had with your friends—going out, partying, and making memories with them.” –Katie King, sophomore
“Single. When you’re older and more mature, it’s okay to be in a relationship, but when you’re early in college, you should focus on school and finding yourself.” –Maggie Tilley, sophomore
“In a relationship. It gives you sexual security.” –Matty Messoral, junior
“Single. I’m fine with being in a relationship in college, but I’ve already convinced myself that college relationships don’t work. I’m not going to marry the person I date in college.”–Mary Toups, sophomore
“Single. Many girls in college with boyfriends usually forget that there’s a life outside of their relationship and forget about the people that they once called their friends. I’ve never wanted to be that girl. In order to be in a relationship, girls need to learn to balance their relationship and friendships equally because when the relationship is over, their friends are the only support they have.” –Britney Marrero, freshman
Well, you heard the people.
Most would argue that college is a time to figure yourself out. Being away from home and your family truly allows you to grow as your own person and do what you love to do. You should spend that time having fun! Going out and making memories with your friends is one of the main parts of the college experience.
Others would argue that being in a relationship during college is good because it gives you consistency. You’re able to spend an unlimited amount of time with the person you care about and love. It allows you to truly focus on yourself and your studies because you aren’t worried about going out and partying and looking for someone. You already have that person by your side.
In my opinion, neither is better. They bother have their pros and they both have their cons. Being in a relationship in college takes a lot of trust, commitment, and time, but if you are happy with that person, then why not? Do what makes you happy.