Let’s be brutally honest here, almost no one is looking for a serious relationship in college. It’s a time to have fun, a time to not worry about anything besides making it to your 8 a.m., showing up to finals and not failing classes. Besides these instances, there isn’t a whole lot of responsibility and the main person you are taking care of is yourself. Everyone is interested in finding themselves, becoming a better person, getting their dream job, becoming successful in their career path and so on and so forth. If a relationship comes along that is fine and dandy, but people are so reluctant to commit that it is almost rare to see anyone in relationships in their early twenties. Don’t get me wrong, if someone finds the right person and they fall madly in love, of course they will become Facebook Official but otherwise, the Big R word (the R Word being relationship) is a whimsical fantasy in most real world situations and here’s why…
1. Relationships are scary.
Don’t get me wrong, I am most definitely the ‘relationship type of person,’ but I can see why young men (and possibly women) nowadays get crippled by the idea of commitment. Having to be accountable for everything you do is somewhat intimidating, and having to tell another person everything you are doing and why is a bit redundant.
2. Hooking up is “easier.”
People nowadays would rather just have a friend they can hook up with or call from time to time, than have to be responsible for their actions and who they are with at all times.
3. Things become way too complicated.
In college, relationships are almost impossible because they never start as a relationship. There is a first time hook up or a drunken makeout sesh or some sort of scenario that mixes everything up and blurs the lines.
4. What happened to dates, boys?
Dates barely exist anymore. Instead, now there is 11 p.m. hang out sessions, which of course, insinuate intentions that aren’t quite angelic.
5. Settling down with ONE person?
There are just so many attractive people out there and it is hard to narrow your mind to only one person. The mindset is that we are only in our twenties and this is no time to be settling down.
6. What if I am just settling for my partner?
It is a scary though to be a twenty year-old in a relationship with someone whom you know you’re not sure if you’ll marry, but don’t want to break up with quite yet. What do you do in this situation?
These are only a few of the reasons that settling down in college is incredibly difficult, but I’m sure there are a multitude of others. Why can’t it just be like in the olden days when gentleman took ladies out on dates and THEN kissed them, or why can’t liking someone just be as simple as eating food or watching Netflix? A girl can dream. Whether it be hard or easy to find that someone that you wind up settling down with, keep in mind that it is not the sole reason of college and that if you don’t find someone to love it is not the end of the world. College IS about finding yourself and it IS about becoming a better person and finding your career path. College is all of these things and more and don’t let a relationship status define you. Even if dating in college is impossible, reaching your dreams is not and who knows? You may find a partner along the way.