Sex and The City might be the sassiest, most fabulous, and even border-line ridiculous 90s television show that my mother has ever made me watch. Watching each episode was a dive into the life of middle-class women who question anything and expect everything. Despite the lack of representation of women on the outside, I noticed each episode reflects what women still think about on the inside. Each character poses questions we may ask ourselves whether single or in a relationship, here are some of my favourite.
- Do we dare pay for ourselves?
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Ever had an awkward experience wanting to pay your own bill on a date? Miranda Hobbs, is the stunning red-head lawyer who believes she should not have to hide her success from the world. This includes her dating life. Miranda admits how intimidated men are when she takes charge regarding money. Some men do not appreciate this at first, but Miranda believes that paying for yourself is not the problem, some just believe it is the door to power. Miranda asks us all the question “why should women have to hide their success from men?” Men today love a good spoil from time to time so I believe if you’ve got it, flaunt it.Â
- Can women be too sexual?Â
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In a post on Instagram, a walk down the street, or updating that relationship status on Facebook, women feel judged. Judged no matter how we dress or how many people we date. Character, Samantha Jones is the publicist of the group and as a publicist she shows the audience exactly who she is and most importantly, who she desires to be.
An openly sexual woman describes a nude photoshoot as something for her and “not about a man’s approval” or anyone else. I have to say if I had this form of confidence, I would say in Samantha Jones’ confident tone, “bravo”.
- Is romance dead?
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The optimist of the group, Charlotte York, believes anything is possible. She is the most resilient character of them all. Wanting a man to sweep her off her feet is the hopeless romantic we all deny ourselves to be. The character may be bubbly and slightly delusional to the others yet she takes charge of her own romance even by proposing to the man of her dreams. Who said Prince charming did not want Cinderella to go down on one knee? After all, romance is what we make of it.
- Do we need a significant other to be happy?
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The answer to this question is a major spoiler alert! Carrie Bradshaw is the leading columnist who writes about all the struggles of “Sex and The City”. Carrie has gone through most obstacles women have while looking for love, but what is the most surprising ending to a show so focused on having someone to love, is that somewhere sometime down the line we have forgotten about who truly matters. As cliché as it may sound, Carrie Bradshaw shows us all that loving yourself is the only way to utter happiness.
Every show has a deeper meaning. Remember that phrase about how we should not judge a book by the cover, well we definitely should not judge a show based on its time. The show includes moments questioning female sexuality, careers, friendships, inter-racial romances and many more. Maybe you can find some answers to questions I have not mentioned. Only one way to find out.