We’ve all been there. The guy you start falling for is just not that into you. You drive yourself crazy thinking of ways that you can change for him to like you back, but all attempts fail. I’m here to tell you to get a grip.
All throughout high school, I never felt the need to have a boyfriend. Sure, all my friends were in and out of relationships, and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t jealous, but at the same time, I was just doing me. My freshman year of college was the same thing until a friendship turned into something more. However, because our lives weren’t very permanent, he believed things couldn’t move forward. That is where I lost myself.
I began talking, dressing and even thinking differently. I thought of every possible way to change the situation, but reality would just punch me in the face. I was in the lowest of lows until I started to focus on what made me happy. If I’ve gone all these years without being in a relationship, what’s the difference now?
So for the girl who’s stuck in the friend zone, it’s not the end of the world. If you put yourself in the mindset that they’re missing out, you’ll gain the confidence to do just about anything. Never be afraid to put yourself out there, even if a few guys have already torn you down. Don’t let them take your confidence from you. If you do, they win.
For me, that change of attitude made all the difference. My grades were great, I was meeting new people, and I started getting involved in the things I was passionate about at school. I started to believe in me, and as soon as I did, he did too. He ended up wanting to give things another chance, and now, a year later, we are going strong.
I may have had a happy ending, but always remember to keep your chin up and keep doing you if you don’t.