He brings the biggest smile to your face when he tells you that you’re beautiful. You’re at his house as he showers you with compliments, and you’ve heard when a guy brings you to his place, he’s serious about starting a relationship with you.
But he hasn’t taken you out on a date. And the only words that come out of his mouth beside the sweep-you-off-your-feet compliments are sex and anything synonymous to the word.
Let’s face it. The guy is playing you, and you’re falling for his traps. Anything from “my place” to “you’re so beautiful” has you feeling like you’re on top of the world. You think he’s head over heels for you, but you’re the one who’s head over heels for him.
You need to show him that you’re in it to win it, and if he’s not interested in a relationship, then you’re not interested in him. Before you decide to bear the bad news of no more fun or no more play to him, double-check that he’s playing you with the following tips.
1. He texts you only at night
If you’re getting a “Hey, what are you up to?” at night, he’s got two things on his mind. They are ‘you’ and ‘sex.’ Just think of it like this – he’s bored at home, and the best thing that can rock his night is you. But you’re also available in the mornings and afternoons.
So next time he texts you at night asking what you’re up to, just tell himyou’re busy. Then, offer him a rain check for a possible lunch date for another day. If he agrees to it, then he’s a keeper for now. If he doesn’t take you up on the offer, then he’s clearly not interested in you as a girlfriend.
2. He hasn’t taken you out on a date
If the only place he’s taken you to is his bedroom, then that should be a hint that he only wants you for one thing. Maybe he thinks you just want the same thing, too, if you agree to go over his place all the time. But you want a relationship with the guy along with the fun nights. Next time he asks you to go over his place, tell him that you’d like to go to a dinner and a movie date for a change. A way to a guy’s heart is through his stomach, so if he says no to dinner, then on to the next one.
3. You’re not his girlfriend
It’s been a couple of months, and those make out sessions are more deserving than the title of friends with benefits. Being his girlfriend would be nice, and dinner dates or dancing dates can substitute some of those lengthy sessions. If he doesn’t ask you out on a date, then he’s probably not interested in being your boyfriend.
To be on the safe side, ask him out on a date – “Want to do dinner and a movie this Saturday night?” never hurt a collegiette. If he says he can’t make it, then it’s probably a lame excuse. A guy that really likes you will put aside everything to show you that he is into you and cares to spend time with you.
4. He showers you with compliments
He tells you that you’re the most beautiful girl in the world every time he sees you. Maybe you are to him, but truth is, he’ll tell you anything you want to hear just to make you vulnerable. Sure, boyfriends shower their girlfriends with compliments, but let’s not forget that this guy isn’t your boyfriend. Allow him to continue to sway you with “pretty,” “beautiful” and “hot,” but tell him you’d like to hear him utter other words that will bring quite possibly the biggest smile to your face – “You’re the most amazing girlfriend in the world.”