Being your RLCG has its perks. One of which is that I get to be genuine with more and more people in this world. Being genuine is one of the most attractive personality traits a person can have. In this case, my definition of attractiveness means to gravitate towards like the attraction of a magnet. We tend to use the word “attractive” to classify any sort of human being with suave hair and a small waist; however, I see attractiveness as just another way to say pleasant to be around.
Back to the original topic. I love to listen to people be genuine so I feel like I should take the initiative to do the same. I have been asked by plenty of individuals to let you all have the inside scoop, so let me be real to you about my dating life.
Disclaimer to begin with: I do have a girlfriend. Not only a girlfriend, but a girlfriend of almost 14 months. She is an amazingly genuine listener, challenger, and smiler. She also lets me watch the Braves and Spongebob whenever I want (bonus.)
My history has been one of living and learning. Dating has completely changed for me over the years, but I can say that I enjoyed each one of my relationships. With that, I think we can put to rest any ideas that guys get into relationships for any reason other than to have a positive relationship with a girl. Plain and simple. I have had lot of great moments in relationships because I have lots of trust in my relationships. That trust has been broken a few times in my life, but I still maintain the best possible situation I can possibly keep after that. I’ve only had two girlfriends in college (including my current one right now.) I have learned how to mature as a person during my time at UGA and it is amazing to see how much more fruit comes out of a relationship that brings two mature people together. That’s a tidbit of advice. Get a mature significant other. They will last longer.
Here are some flaws that I have as a guy that get in the way of any sort of relationship I have. I have the tendency to put the responsibility for myself to create happiness for the others around me. I have had lots of different roles when I was young that resulted in me assuming responsibility at a very young age. Because of this, I feel as though I am responsible for anyone’s and everyone’s happiness. This is probably the most taxing/rewarding part of every relationship I have. I give myself away as a selfless sacrifice whether it is for my family, my girlfriend, or even the first time acquaintance at my campus ministry. I like that aspect about myself, but it is beginning to become detrimental.With sacrificing your own self for someone else, it is very easy to fall into the pitfall of lacking any sort of care/importance for yourself. You put yourself more at risk when you care for someone and you want to give them the world. It is almost like a plague where you can’t help the outcome. It just affects your whole self.
I’m glad I got to open up to you. I want this to be an invitation to do the same. Let this be a call to action for everyone to be genuine with everyone around you. Things become a lot more real and a sense of community will provide an eternal feeling of gladness. Follow my footsteps when it comes to opening up. If you do this, people will be drawn to you and you will probably have better dating experience than I did in my past.
Blessings,Your Real Live College GuyÂ