Have you ever wondered what in the world goes on inside a guyās head? For example, why do they leave girls on āread?ā What are their (actual) thoughts when they find someone checking out their date? Why do they ghost people after a while, and what are their biggest turn-offs? If youāve ever pondered these juicy questions, youāre not alone. A YouTube video hosted by creators Maddie and Elijah is addressing all of your burning questions ā including the ones girls are afraid to ask guys.
In this intimate Q&A, Maddie, Karla, Destiny, and Millie ask their boyfriends ā Elijah, KB, Julius, and Spencer ā the guys take turns answering questions from social media, along with a few that their girlfriends are too uncomfortable to ask. (Note: everyone listed is a couple, but apparently, Millie and Spencer are ājust friendsā).
What they revealed about dating, sex, and relationships might surprise you. So, here are the guysā answers to questions girls are too afraid to ask.
Why do guys ghost?
Elijah: “Theyāre afraid of just telling you ‘no theyāre not interested,’ so they think just not saying anything at all would be easier.” Maddie: “No, that is even worse!” Elijah: “Right, right!”
Do guys view girls differently when they ādo itā the first time they hangout?
Destiny and Karla ask their boyfriends, Julius and KB:
Julius: “Say if I met you at the club and youāre just like, āletās go homeā… then Iām likeā¦” Destiny: “Then youāre not taking it seriously?” Julius: “Yeah.” Karla: “It would seem like sheās being desperate.” KB: “I probably wouldnāt take that girl as serious, it would take more time for me to say āokay, Iām serious with this girl.ā”
What do you notice first about a girl?
Millie T. asks her friend, Spencer:
Spencer simply responds: “Eyes.” (He then goes onto a rant about how personality is important, too.)
Would you take a girl back if she cheated?
Destiny and Karla ask Julius and KB:
Julius: “NO. Thatās disrespecting me and Iām really big on respect.” KB: “But, say youāre married and you got hella kidsā¦ it depends on your scenario and where youāre at in life.”
What are guysā biggest turn-offs?
Elijah: “Probably when we are trying to leave or go somewhere and girls are just taking forever to get ready. Like, they have to do their hair and theyāre like, āokay, Iām almost ready,ā then theyāre getting dressed and they canāt figure out what theyāre supposed to wearā¦” Maddie: “PROOF THAT GUYS DONāT HAVE ANY PATIENCE!”
Do you care if sheās shaved or not?
(He uncomfortably laughs and looks away). Spencer: “Uhh, to an extent.” Millie: “So nothing too crazy?” Spencer: “Realistically, Iām not picky, but thereās a levelā¦ Thereās being clean and thereās justā¦ not.”
What do you think about going to the strip club?
Destiny and Karla ask Julius and KB.
Julius: “If youāre in a relationship and you go by yourself it isnāt cool.” Destiny: “How about with your girl if she brings it up to you?” Julius: “I support whatever you want to do, Iām behind you at all times.” KB: “Would I go by myself? Nah, ācause thatās just not okayā¦ but, I know in some relationships people donāt care and might be cool with it, but us? Nahā¦ Thereās not a lot of good outcomes that can come from us going there, more bad things can happen than good in that situation.”
What is the best and worst thing about being a male?
Maddie asks her partner, Elijahā¦
Elijah: “The best thing about being a guy is you donāt have periods and you donāt have cramps.” (Maddie makes a face.) Maddie: “And you donāt have to give birth!!!!!!!!!” Elijah: “Yeah, that too, you donāt have to push anything out of you, so thatās awesomeā¦” (Maddie laughs.) Elijah: “The worst thing about being a male is when youāre just, like, sitting in an office, youāre sitting in class, or youāre just literally chilling on the couch and you get a randomā” Maddie cuts him off: “OH! We get it! Alright!” (She uncomfortably takes a sip of her drink). Elijah: “I never ask for it to happen, it just happensā¦” Maddie: “WHO WOULD YOU ASK? Like, āGod, please give me a b*ner!!!?'” Elijah: “Itās such an awkward thing and I hate it so much.” Maddie: “Iām cringing!”
What makes a girl sexually attractive?
Mille asks her friend, Spencer:
Spencer: “Confidence.”
How do you feel walking around with your girl when sheās looking extra good and guys are staring?
Destiny and Karla ask Julius and KB:
Julius: “Me? Iām protectiveā¦ so I would say something, Iāll be like, ābroā¦ you never seen a girl? Like, whatās up, whatās the problem, do you wanna handle the problem, what you wanna do?'” (The girls laugh at his dramatic response). Destiny: “With that being said, do you prefer when your girl dresses more conservative? Like a granny?” Julius confirms: “Like a granny.” (The girls shout, āWHAT?!ā as the boys chuckle maliciously). Julius: “I want her to feel comfortable in what sheās wearing but I also want her to respect me and make me feel comfortableā¦ you want me to go outside with nothinā on besides a–?” Destiny: “A sock!” Julius: “Ha-haaaaa!” (The women repeat the question to KB.) KB: “Iām just a calm person, so I care, but the whole day Iāll just be like, āletās go homeā or some sh*t, I donāt want to deal with it.” Destiny and Karla: “Whatās crazy, though, is that you can be dressed baggy and all that and dudes will still stare.” KB: “Yeah, dudes will always be doing sh*t like that; canāt really control it.”
Makeup or no makeup?
Elijah: “I donāt know, itās really hard, itās like two different versions of you. When you have your makeup on and youāre all dolled up itās super cute ācause we can go out and have a nice date, it just makes it the date and adds to it.” Maddie: “I love myself both ways, but I usually prefer without makeup. On chill days, I just donātā¦ care enough.” Elijah: “Yeah, same.” (Maddie giggles, āsame.ā)
How can you tell when a guy is simply not interested?
Spencer: “Iād be a bit distant, youād be able to tell. It would be very obvious if I wasnāt into it.” Millie: “The vibe in general tells a lot.”
During this Q&A, the guys revealed their true thoughts to Maddie, Karla, Destiny and Millie. We gained some insight on their perspective, which is helpful in understanding why men are the way they are. Cheers to transparency and healthy relationships.š„āØ