Leaving a good impression is one of the more important parts of society — especially when it comes to families. Whether you are heading to your significant other’s house, or a friends, an impression can be made within 30 seconds by just making eye contact and saying hello.
Here are some tips on how you can leave a good impression and still feel comfortable and confident:
Look Sensible
When people say “dress to impress,” you don’t have to grab the spandex, the falsies, or the heels. Thanksgiving dinner is a family holiday, so refrain from full glam mode. Instead, opt for a more natural, or even natural glam look, unless otherwise stated. Traditionally, most parents are more conservative, so just stay on your toes. Besides, you’ll be feasting and drinking, so it’s okay to dress comfortably.
Speak Formally
When talking to those who are older than you, especially the parents and grandparents, it is common sense to address them as mister or misses. But, some figures of authority prefer that you call them by their first names. Even so, adding the formal titles in front of their names shows that you are polite and respectful towards them. Remember, this is not your home, and don’t assume the personalities of the household members. In other words, if your friend or significant other reports that their family members are laid back, don’t just assume that they are okay with you are on a casual first name basis. Always wait, or ask, for their preference. I think it is just safer to be overly polite than to potentially be labeled as rude.
Socialize with Everyone
You may be uncomfortable with being in someone’s house, and even more so when it’s your first time there. However, make a conscious effort to try and converse with everyone. Engage in conversations accordingly, and even start up your own. You may have more in common than you think. For those going to their significant other’s household, this shows that you are genuinely trying to know everyone, and are potentially wanting to be a part of their family in the future. It doesn’t hurt to be amiable, and doing so can even alleviate the awkwardness that comes with meeting new people.
Help When You Can
Although this is not your house, you can do things to help ease the stress and workload of the host. Whether it’s helping set the table, bringing out the dishes, cleaning up, or playing with the kids while the parents are trying to converse — the list could go on. Regardless of whether the family expects you to or not, all forms of support can leave a really good impression. Some may insist that you just sit and relax, but actively showing that you can be of service can let them know that they have an extra set of hands when needed.
Overall, Thanksgiving can be a very special and intimate time for families to spend time together; so, when you are invited over to participate, you cannot take that for granted. If you are actively trying to be on your best behavior, then you don’t have to stress about whether you’ve made a good impression. On the other hand, don’t pressure yourself about having to do certain things, or voice specific opinions. You are entitled to yourself, your feelings, and opinions. Most importantly, just have fun and enjoy. Who knows, you may even be invited for other holiday parties, or gatherings.