 By Adriana QuilesÂ
Controversial topics are subjects of intense public debate and often make people feel uncomfortable. Topics like abortion, gay marriage, feminism and even political or religious beliefs are examples of popular controversial topics that cause heavy arguments within society. Issues like this might come up at any moment and place. Because these issues are complex and emotionally charged, a lot of people find it difficult to debate them rationally. However, it is important to address these delicate topics because they impact our daily lives.
It’s common to be in a room with your family and hear someone disrespectfully discuss a sensitive topic. When this occurs, we are likely to be in a difficult position since we are unsure whether to correct them or simply ignore them. While it may appear to be a good idea to avoid overstepping the conversation to prevent heated debates, it is critical to express your opinion and remain respectful at the same time.
Speak up when you are a marginalized person in the room
The majority of these controversial subjects have a negative impact on one or more people in the room. These topics are sometimes followed by disrespectful comments, and it is important to speak up to let them know you are present. It is likely that the member of your family who is being disrespectful is unaware that their comments are affecting someone in the room, so it is important to speak up to let them know you are present. For example, if your family is debating whether women should work or not and making unpleasant comments about a woman’s role, it might help to intervene and make it very clear that you’re in that place. This way, your family will be aware that the comments are relevant to you or someone else in the room, and they will be more cautious with their remarks.Â
Ask people to clarify their oppressive statements in a step-by-step manner
When a member of your family is discussing an issue, they can be vague about the point they are trying to make. So, if someone makes a rude comment, you might ask them to explain what they mean. This way, you may develop a specific strategy for discussing the conversation’s key points, be succinct and precise while remaining present and active in the situation.
Explain how the issue affects you, the world or someone you know
When you’re educating someone, make sure you explain how their views, statements, or opinions put others at a disadvantage. You can also show them how the problem directly impacts them. People are more willing to listen to something that directly impacts them; therefore, this will make them more open to hearing your case.
Provide examples
Talking about small things that we often don’t notice and pass off as regular and natural is one way to strengthen and validate your argument. Give examples of how their comments encourage oppressive beliefs or ideologies, so that they are more aware of the magnitude of the problem while also being conscious that seemingly insignificant things may easily affect a marginalized group.
Stay calm
These are delicate themes that can easily escalate into heated debates, making it difficult to remain cool. However, the problem with lashing out is that you may become focused on one point to establish your argument and lose sight of the bigger picture. Take a deep breath, recover perspective, and build bridges if you find yourself losing patience. Connect with others and show a more positive and devoted attitude.