It’s tough to not think about that nagging feeling that you need someone after being single for so long. Especially with your friends and family asking “¿Donde está el novio?” and never having a good answer. As much as you want to avoid it, the concept of romance and being in love is all around us–in movies, music books, etc. So, let’s face it. If you’ve never been in a relationship by now, you’re wondering if you’re unlovable or something is wrong with you.To all people who feel “forever alone,” don’t worry! I’m here to tell you it’s ok and here’s why:
You’re not alone
It might seem that everyone has been in love at some point, which may cause you to feel like you’re missing out on something. However, there are more people than you can think of that have never been in a relationship. Finding love is harder than it used to be, so it’s extremely common even if you can’t notice it. It just isn’t as normalized as it should be.
You’re independent
Being single for so long has proven how you don’t need anyone to “complete” you. You have depended on yourself for everything in your life. You don’t need anyone else to feel happiness, to fulfill your needs or to feel comfortable. If you have made it here without anyone you’ll be able to continue without anyone.
There are other things in life
Sometimes being in a relationship may seem like the most important thing in the world, but it isn’t. Enjoy your time and make the most of opportunities in your life. Being single means that you are not tied down to anyone and have the time and freedom to explore yourself and your interests. Besides, love from family and friends is just as important as any other type of love.
You will eventually find love
Remember that the media may show things that are not true. It may seem like people should have had a ton of relationships by their 20’s, but that’s totally fake. You don’t have a limited time to find love and there is no specific age to have your first relationship. Maybe you’re waiting for the perfect person to arrive and that’s fine! Never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone by now (it’s completely normal), but don’t beat yourself up about it. It just hasn’t happened yet! Remember to not rush into anything if you’re not ready. But, until then, love yourself and enjoy your single life!