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What I Hope You Find In Love: An Open Letter

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at URI chapter.

Dear Reader,

There are a few things I know for certain: one Advil is never enough, everything tastes better over the kitchen sink, and to love and be loved in return is an unbelievable privledge.  

I’m not an expert in relationships, nor am I writing this to give you advice on your love life by setting unattainable standards for your relationship. However, I have loved, lost and loved again.  Each second of pain that came with these chapters in my life was matched with several thousand minutes of unmatched euphoria.  That’s what love is–euphoria–the feeling of intense excitement and happiness.  It’s not made up of grand gestures, planned birthday parties, or expensive dates. It’s a compilation of instances dressed in complete comfortability; where everything becomes reflexive. There is no thinking; it’s effortless.  

So Reader, this is my hope for you: that the love in your life is filled with infinite precious moments, where even your breathing softens.

I hope they let you squish your cold feet against their legs, no matter how much they hate it.

I hope they tuck that piece of hair behind your ear, because that act alone solves more problems than formal peace treaties.

I hope they wipe away your eyeboogers without permission.

I hope each time you go to sleep after a fight, your shoulder blade is met with their kiss, and their arms wrap around you tighter than usual.

I hope they challenge you and you challenge them right back.

I hope your they remember your coffee order, as elaborate as it is, and bring you a cup just because.

I hope they keep their right hand on your thigh as they drive.

I hope there’s singing–lots of it–and dancing, preferably in the kitchen.

I hope there’s someone you’re thinking of as you read this.

I hope they think of you like this, too.

I hope you know to let go of those who bring you more pain than love, and more grief than joy. 

I hope you find this kind of love in every moment that you live, by loving yourself first.

Sincerely,

Me

URI Her Campus President, Campus Correspondent & Editor in Chief! Jersey Girl. Public Relations & Communication Studies double major. Class of 2O17. Usually at the beach, probably petting the closest dog.