Waking up you look around and notice an empty space that is only occupied by you. Your mind begins to automatically go into the “what did I do wrong?” zone. You begin to make a list of all the things you might have done wrong that made him leave. You list everything you can think of except the one obvious answer.
He didn’t leave because you weren’t pretty enough or good enough. He only left because you gave him something you thought he wanted. In reality, as women, we don’t really understand what a man wants, and that is why I have interviewed men around campus to find out what they are really looking for in a women.
Women think they have it all figured out because 40% of women in America sleeps with a man within 2-5 dates according to business insider. They think a man isn’t willing to build a relationship before the sexual encounter, but in reality guys confirm the opposite. One guy on campus discussed the importance of building a relationship before becoming intimate. He claimed he wants to build trust with the women he pursues.
There were a lot of sounds of disapproval when going around campus asking guys opinions about whether or not they would see a potential relationship with a woman who was quick to jump in bed with him. One guy even said, “I wouldn’t judge her, but I just wouldn’t talk to her again.” When asking a man what he believes men think after encountering women who are quick to give it up he said, “Mission accomplished. Game over.” A lot of the men could agree that a man wants a chase, and when the woman is willing to give herself up to him so fast there is no chase.
Many women believe a man only wants the physical aspect of a relationship, however when asking a variety of different USFSP men what qualities they look for in a woman not one described physical features. The favorite quality among these men was loyalty. A man wants someone he can trust. That being said, when a woman is eager to jump into bed so fast she makes the impression that she won’t be loyal to him. Instead, a guy believes she will sleep around while she dates him.
When asking a single man, specifically what type of girl he is looking for he said, “Let’s put it this way I would rather have a girl who is the library more than she is in the club.” Men want a woman who is goal oriented and ambitious.
A caring nature seemed to be an important quality among these men. A man wants to know the woman that he is attracted to is a sincere person. Not only would he want her to care for him, but he would also want her to care for others as well.
Apparently, men are drawn to the women who respect themselves and turned away from the women who don’t. ”There is something special in a woman who respects herself because it is rare to come by,” one man said. When asked if it is a turn off when women have morals another man said, “Of course not! If anything, it is a turn on!”
One man even said, “Women can want a relationship but trade it for what the man wants which could be sex. So, basically women want love but will trade it for less.”
So my advice to all the women out there is not to be what a guy wants, but to be who you want to be. Men describe these sincere qualities they desire that I know most women have but hide. Since being a woman, I know women desire to be loved and respected and that starts with loving and respecting yourself. Don’t trade love for something less. I know most women give their self up to a man because they are looking to be desirable, but the best way to be desirable is to be you. Every woman has a beautiful side, let that out, and watch how fast a man is to respect you and truly love you.