This New Year’s rather than of trying to start a diet or a new workout routine, instead, try to stop doing the bullsh*t that makes you unhappy and hinders your success. Make this year the year where you wipe out the negativity in your life to make more room for the badass sh*t you actually want to do. Because joining a gym is so last year, anyway. With that, here is a list of exactly what sh*t you need to stop doing today..but especially in 2018.
First…
Stop basing your success off of others
Others accomplishments do not minimize your own; others ideas of success do not define yours. Define what success means for you. Don’t let what others think affect how you feel about that.
Stop caring or thinking about your ex; they don’t deserve the space in your mind.
You deserve so much better than them. And you’ve got some real cool sh*t to do in your own life. It’s time to move on. Someday you’ll find someone who knows you’re worth it. You’re much better off without them.
If you vape…Stop.
“It’s not as bad as smoking cigarettes!” Isn’t a valid excuse. Take care of your body homie. (And if you actually smoke cigarettes…come on, you’ve seen those MTV ads.)
Stop drinking to forget
Is the hangover the next morning ever really worth it?
Stop ignoring your problems
Self improvement never started with ignoring personal issues. Self actualization is hard to achieve–some people never do. Sorting through your issues is never easy, but through all the mess is a lot of personal growth and sense of peace. Working towards your best self is worth it. You might never be happy if you don’t.
Stop putting off seeing a therapist, or thinking that you don’t need one.
EVERYONE can benefit from going to therapy. It’s not nearly as intimidating as it seems. A therapist is there to help you; their job is to advocate for you and your happiness. Having 45 minutes with an objective and supportive second party built into your week can change the way you see yourself, others, and your entire life. Don’t let the stigma discourage you from going; it might be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself. (And btw, “I don’t have time!” Isn’t a valid excuse. You can spare 45 minutes a week. Your mental health is more important than catching that episode of AHS.)
Stop being friends with people who don’t treat you well
You know you have at least a few in your life, and you know you’re better than that. Drop ‘em honey.
Stop taking shit from people
Hell!!! NO!!!
Stop being mean
Nobody is their best self all the time, but it’s not that hard to not be mean. Don’t pile up your karmic debt.
Stop expecting perfection
Whether this be from yourself or others, it will always be unrealistic. Try your best, work hard, be kind, and stay focused on what’s really important. The rest will work itself out.
2018 holds a plethora of new opportunities–work to be your best self within that. I’m always rooting for you. Happy New Year XO