It can be difficult to feel confident as an introvert. There seems to be a lot of pressure to always be making new friends and to be more outgoing. As an introvert, I donāt always love going out to parties and making new friends. I donāt always love being outgoing and forcing myself to talk to acquaintances. Even when Iām not feeling particularly social (and there are times when I want to mingle), you can still be confident! It can be hard to feel positively towards yourself when you donāt seem to be meeting a certain standard of ācollege lifeā, but here are some tips for feeling confident as an introvert, and realizing you are still valued (even if you donāt always want to interact with others).
1) Respect Your Boundaries, but Push your Limits
No one is going to feel confident if they are outside of their comfort zone all the time. If you donāt want to go out one weekend, donāt go out! Donāt make yourself feel guilty for wanting to take time for yourself; everyone needs a little time to relax. On the other hand, everyone can benefit from stepping out of their box sometimes. Set a goal for yourself and be realistic about expectations. Some examples are: “Iāll talk to someone new in my class once a month”, or “Iāll go out with my friends every other weekend”. By following these steps, you will be honoring yourself but also challenging yourself, both of which result in confidence boosters.
2) Dress the Part
āFeel good, look good,ā is a very common but true saying. If you feel pretty, then youāll act more confident because you arenāt self-conscious about the way you look. Curl your hair, put on a flirty dress, and make your way onto the town! It seems so simple, but it can drastically affect the way you interact with people.Ā
3) Be a Good Friend First
As an introvert, it can be difficult to spark up a conversation with strangers. You donāt always know what to say, and so you desperately hope that someone will talk to you. I have quickly learned that this is a passive way of life; if you are always waiting on something, things will rarely happen for you. You have to take initiative in your own existence because you are in charge of your life. So, if you want new friends, practice being a good friend! Compliment someoneās shoes, hair, or outfit. Say they have a nice smile or that they have pretty eyes. It may not always result in a full conversation, but at least you are being the change in the world you hope to see. By putting your full effort into every interaction, you can leave situations feeling positive and confident.
Iāve learned to let go of the pressure to always be outgoing, and Iāve learned to recognize the value in myself. So start implementing these tips into your life, and watch your confidence grow!
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