I’m sure many people can agree that dating during this time is not easy. With the COVID pandemic, we all have to be careful and safe about meeting up with people in person, so naturally we’re left to venture out into the online dating environment. Speaking from my own experience, I haven’t had any luck with dating apps in the past, so I’m not holding out too much hope now. I personally don’t feel great using them because I just much prefer to meet up in person. I’m sure some can relate that dating apps just aren’t really for them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve deleted and redownloaded them thinking, “Maybe it’ll work for me this time!” But if this is something that works for you, then by all means, go for it! I’ve found that some apps are definitely better than others so if you haven’t used them before, I suggest trying a few out to find which one works best for you.
Remember that it is okay to be single and to focus on yourself, especially if you are not ready for a relationship at this time. As someone who’s been single her whole life, I can attest that it’s not easy being surrounded by other people who are in love. Relationships are being constantly portrayed through TV and film, social media, and people who are around you. It can feel suffocating and isolating, but I’ve worked to come to terms with knowing that one day I’ll meet the right person and it’s not something I can force. I’ve also learned how valuable platonic relationships are. I have a few friends and family members in my life who support and love me unconditionally. That’s all I really need right now!
As Valentine’s Day is coming up, it can definitely feel a little sad when you don’t really have someone to spend it with. But who says you can’t spend it with other people? A couple years ago, I did a “Galentine’s Day” where my single friends and I hung out and made a nice dinner. It was so much fun, and it gave us a perfect excuse to do something! This year, most of those friends are in relationships, plus we wouldn’t really be able to hang out in person. I still plan to be with family though, and it’ll be fun to video chat with other single friends! Also, if no one else is going to spoil you with gifts during this holiday, feel free to treat yourself! Get yourself some chocolate, wine, or that one thing you’ve been saving in your online cart.
Make this day an excuse to care for yourself in the way that you want to. This could mean all kinds of different things, so make sure you find the thing that makes you happy. For me, this will probably be watching movies or a new show and bringing out my favorite ice cream! Remember that despite all of the pressure you may have around you to be in a relationship, this is precious time for you to learn more about who you are and to learn to love yourself.