Excuses, we’ve all heard them. Whether the excuses come from a friend, a romantic partner, or a relative, we all have been let down by someone we never thought would let us down. How to save yourself the disappointment, don’t set high expectations for people. The phrase “setting high expectations for others” simply means that you put high trust in an individual and expect them to do right by you. Sadly, you cannot predict others behaviors sometimes. Throughout my years of living, one very valuable lesson that I have learned is that if you put too much trust in others, there will be times where they let you down. A solution to this problem is to realize that everyone has their character flaws that we all have to work on, on a daily basis. We have to understand that in order to have things the way that we want them to, we have to ultimately depend on ourselves to get it done.
I am not saying to distrust everyone that you encounter, but always remember that in the end, you are the one that you know you can depend on for a fact. Having healthy loving relationships is important, but you should never let others take advantage of you. If you feel the energy that you give is not being reciprocated, it is in your best interest to walk away from that situation. Reliability is important in a mutual relationship. A question that you need to ask yourself is “how consistent is this person?”. If a person is never there when you need them, chances are they are not reliable. The ultimate goal is pure happiness that comes from within. Regardless if someone has shown you they are not meeting your expectations, you have to decide if they are worth staying in your life. As long as you have self-love, you will always save yourself the disappointment. HCXO!