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The Positives of Being Single on Valentine’s Day

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Valdosta chapter.

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It is that time of year again, Valentine’s day! If you are in the same boat as me, then you are single and do not have a special someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with and that is okay! This is my second year around not having valentines and I am perfectly fine with that. On the other hand, some people who are single might not feel the same way I feel. It is okay being fine with being single on Valentineā€™s Day. They hate when Valentine’s Day comes around. They look at being single as a disappointment because they have no one special to make them feel loved or do couple activities with. But anyone who feels that way is wrong because they are loved and there are positive aspects of being single on Valentine’s Day if they think about it. I remember the days when I was not single, I was a little stressed about Valentineā€™s Day because I wanted the day to be special and perfect. Now that I am single, I am stress-free from those feelings and concerns. If you do not believe me when I say there are positive aspects to being single on Valentine’s Day well, I am about to share some positive aspects of being single on Valentine’s Day.

1. Money saving

Being single on Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to save your coins. Yes, save that money, honey. Since it’s usually tradition to buy roses and candy or whatever you think your significant other would like, you can just save your money since you are single. You can save your money for that trip you always wanted to take but could not afford and take because of all the holidays that have been coming up back to back. This is the time to put your little pennies in your piggy bank, honey. Every cent counts and this is the perfect time to make it count. Just watch others spend their last on chocolate and flowers while you watch your bank account pile up. Not every holiday you have to spend money, it’s okay to save. Also if you save money every Valentine’s Day while you are single, you can have money saved up for when you finally have a valentine for Valentine’s Day.

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2. Time to focus on yourself

If you are single for Valentine’s Day, take February 14 to reflect on yourself instead of someone else. You have been holding out on self-care day for some time now and now is the perfect time to practice self-care. Sometimes you need to show yourself, love, more than you show others love. We neglect ourselves sometimes, but it is so important to do acts of love for ourselves as well. February 14 is the perfect day to commit to self-love no matter how you feel about being single. If you are feeling low because you are upset that you are single then that means you are lacking self-love and self-care. Even if you had someone to make you feel good about yourself, it’s only temporary and only self-love and self-care are going to fix that problem permanently. So if you are single get out there and love yourself and do it proudly!Ā 

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3. Zero pressure

OMG, have you ever been so stressed about what to get your significant other for Valentine’s Day? I have and boy was it stressful. I literally stressed the whole day until Valentine’s Day was completely over. Being single on Valentineā€™s Day, you do not have to worry about getting the perfect gift for someone. Instead, you can chill, relax and focus on yourself. If you want to celebrate, since you know what you like you could even just go out and buy something for yourself and treat yourself instead, but that is if you want to do something nice for yourself. It’s nothing to pressure yourself about, however, whatever mood you are in. Since you know what you like and what you want there will be no pressure in getting the perfect gift. Also, another perfect part about being single, you do not have to go into busy stores and find items you think your significant other would like. You can avoid the large crowds especially with the Covid-19 pandemic going on.Ā 

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4. No disappointments

We all have been there! On Valentine’s Day, everyone has experienced disappointment. For many, it might be different situations. For example, for me, I remember getting someone I really liked a gift. I thought hard about this for Valentine’s day also try to make it the perfect day and they just did not care or even thought about me on Valentineā€™s Day like I thought about them. I was so hurt and disappointed in myself and in them. Trust me you do not want to be crying on Valentine’s Day when you could have totally avoided it. Being single helps avoid disappointments because you are not expecting anything from someone that you thought would do the same for you.Ā 

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5. Being single

Don’t get me wrong being in a relationship is nice and all but there is nothing wrong with being single, especially for Valentine’s Day. I feel single people have more fun on Valentine’s Day, it’s just all about how you play your cards. I hate when people make it out to be a bad thing because they are single. Being single is not a bad thing! It is a beautiful thing, trust me. You are waiting for the right person and being in a wrong relationship can lead to bad situations. When you are single you can get out in the dating pool and see what you like and what you do not like. When you are single you have so many things to focus on. Do not make one day of the year make you feel like you need to be in a relationship just to celebrate love because that’s not true. You can celebrate Valentine’s Day when you are single as well. Valentine’s Day is for single people as well, single people just have a different view for that day. Remember, when you are single you are just one day closer to meeting your true soul mate and there is always next Valentine’s Day.Ā 

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Now that you know that being single on Valentineā€™s Day is not that bad it’s going to be a breeze for you. Just because you are single on Valentineā€™s Day does not mean it is the end of the world. It took me some time to understand that. I learned that it is okay to be single no matter what day of the year it is. You do not need a significant other to show you love or be loved on Valentine’s Day. If you are single on Valentine’s Day, it just means you have a day to yourself to reflect on the love you deserve from yourself and others. You will make it through Valentineā€™s Day by just keeping your head up and understand that there are positive aspects of being single on Valentine’s Day.

Bonny is a transfer student from Georgia Military College, having obtained her associates degree in communication science in Summer 2020. She then transferred to Valdosta State in Fall 2020. She is now a mass media major in her junior year, looking to experience media like she never dreamed of! Bonny's hope that someday her work reaches you and many more.