Hey ladies!
The semester is coming to an end, and if you’re like me, you’re so behind on your assignments you’re scarily numb to stress, or you’re freaking tf out with final projects and exams around the corner.Â
Because I will do ANYTHING to avoid starting these overwhelming, hateful projects breathing down my neck, I have found myself pondering life as it is in my early twenties. How has it changed since I first came to college? Since last semester or even three months ago? What have I learned during these transformative years? Here’s a few thoughts from my latest procrastination sesh and some my friends have shared.Â
Breakouts
Waking up with a breakout used to (and sometimes still does) ruin my whole day. Is it from my impending period or the three packs of trailmix I ate last night? I mean come on, I spend five paychecks on skincare products! How could my skin betray me like this?!Â
I’ve had to do some major self-work to come to the realization that sometimes IT’S. JUST. A. BREAKOUT. My friends aren’t looking at me differently. I can still be sexy. And same goes for you. You are allowed to thrive even if your skin isn’t. You are still a beautiful queen worthy of all good things.
Manifestation
This sh*t works. Once when a new moon came around, I manifested something *very* specific to happen before I graduated. And this wasn’t just any old thing, it was something I never dreamed I’d actually experience. It happened three days later.Â
What you say and the vibes you put out in the universe matter. So much. Having a list of positive affirmations to repeat in the morning or before bed is a great way to start harnessing the power within you to manifest great things outside you.
Love
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but…
- Mr. or Mrs. Right is not the person making you cry every other night.
- If you’re waiting for a sign to move on from a failed Tinder love story, this is your sign.Â
- Anyone who criticizes your body doesn’t deserve to see you naked.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Sexual Health
No sexual sorbet is worth a nasty case of gonorrhea or chlamydia or worse. And even if you never contract an STI, worrying about it after sex is also not fun. Your sexual decisions are your own, and what protection you use is up to you. You’re not killing the mood by asking about your partner’s (or fling’s or one-night stand’s) sexual health or by telling them what you’re comfortable with. Also, we’ve all made dumb decisions and try not to be too hard on yourself afterwards. Let’s just do better next time!Â
Friendship
My mom has always told me friendships are either for a reason, a season or a lifetime. We experience so many different types of friendships during and after our college years, and it can be difficult to decide which ones are for the long haul. The friends we’ll simply invite to our wedding versus those who will stand up there with us. The friends who will like our baby’s pictures on Facebook versus those we’ll FaceTime when we’re pumping at 2 AM. I’ve learned to pay attention to how I feel when I’m around my friends. Who makes me feel validated, heard, understood? Who gives me fresh perspectives on life? Who asks me the tough questions and keeps me accountable for my goals? If they’re not bringing any of the above to the table, maybe they shouldn’t be a big part in my life. Intent to continue is one of the biggest (if not the biggest) factor in a relationship’s success. I’ve had to overcome major personality differences in some of my friendships by us talking things out and deciding that political, spiritual or ideological differences are not as important to us as keeping our relationship. We intend to continue our friendship for a lifetime and are committed to making it work by not talking about some subjects together or respectfully agreeing to disagree with other subjects we talk about.Â
So there you have it ladies! I hope you found this helpful, and I hope you manifest passing grades for all your finals! Remember each of you are beautiful, worthy and capable. Shine on.
HCXO!