I wish I understood you guys. I’m talking about the people that say “I love you” and “best friend” way too much and to everyone they know– The people who write it underneath Instagram pictures of someone they met that same day, the people who write on someone else’s Facebook wall to someone they only met a week ago for their birthday.
You need to stop saying I love you so often because it’s started to lose its significance. No one gets overly excited anymore or truly cherishes those three little words because every time they turn around someone else is saying it to them. I love you should be the thing you say to someone that compliments your personality. That should be the same person you couldn’t see yourself living a fulfilling life without. Â
I’m not trying to tell you where you shouldn’t go to to find loved ones, but what I am saying is don’t settle or say I love you just for the sake of saying it. Take your time to find the people that will end up meaning the most to you. You don’t know how to love because you’ve never had to do it. You’ve simply relied on the words to do the job.Â
You also need to ease up on the term best friend while you’re at it. This may just be my own inability to believe someone, but I honestly do not believe the people that say they have 10 best friends. There’s just no way every single one of those “friends” knows everything there is to know about you. Friendship is like a romantic relationship; it needs nurturing, lots of undivided attention and really good advice. You cannot possibly give all 10 of your friends equal attention, love and support because someone is bound to get their feelings hurt or feel left out.
Not to mention most of them probably don’t know the in’s and out’s of your emotional personality. They can’t guess what you’re going to say before you say it or even what you’re feeling before you start crying. Granted, they are probably there for you when you’ve faced some of your lowest points in life but anyone can be there for you. Your old teachers from high school will be there for you when you need college advice, but you wouldn’t call them your best friends now would you? Don’t mistake people being there for a best friend.
This is all subjective and based on my own personal feelings, but I just ask that you think more deeply the next time you decide to call someone a best friend or even before you say I love you.