Lately I’ve been noticing that my friends either seem dissatisfied with their single lives, or seem dissatisfied with their relationships. This is something that I find intriguing because it exemplifies the saying, “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.”
For those who are single:
I imagine that sometimes you might feel completely alone, but the truth is that you have friends who value you and cherish you deeply. I’m sure you have people in your life who love you and who tell you that they love you. Nurture the relationships you have with these people and watch that love grow deeper. Having a boyfriend won’t change whether you are happy or not. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, love yourself first. For many years, I struggled with self worth. I didn’t feel like anyone would want to date me; I didn’t feel loveable. I worked on loving myself for a while and focused on my positive qualities. I chose to love me. It isn’t an easy thing to do, and I struggle everyday, but I’m so glad that I worked on it before entering in to a relationship. Relationships shouldn’t be taken lightly. They truly are work. When the time is right for you, you’ll find someone!
For those who are in a relationship:
It can be easy to look at someone and only see their flaws, especially if you are feeling tired and irritable due to the stress of school or life in general. It can also be easy to wonder if there is a better option for you in the world when your partner doesn’t live up to your expectations. It can be easy to wish for more. It’s important to remember that neither you nor your partner is perfect. It’s hard to live up to the societal standards of what a “perfect relationship” is or ought to be. Remembering that the two of you are doing the best that you can for each other is key. Actively choosing to love each other each day is tough, but doable.
Both sides have something the other wants. Some want to have a companion, while others long for freedom. Finding the positives in your current situation will help you to feel happy.