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Single, Taken, or Just Hungry for Likes? Valentine’s Day on Instagram Decoded

Kaileigh Klein Student Contributor, Wilfrid Laurier University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Wilfrid Laurier chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

In the age of social media, personal lives are often displayed for public consumption, with Instagram at the forefront of this digital showcase. A casual scroll through Instagram Stories on Valentine’s day might reveal who is single or taken, providing a glimpse into the romantic lives of friends and acquaintances. However, there exists a fine line between sharing and oversharing, especially when it involves posting about one’s partner. 

For many, the decision to post about a significant other on Instagram Stories is influenced by various factors, including the seriousness of the relationship, the desire for privacy, and sometimes, the partner’s comfort with public visibility. Subtle signs like tagging locations during romantic dinners, posting couple selfies, or sharing inside jokes can indicate someone’s relationship status. During special occasions such as anniversaries or Valentine’s Day, even the most private individuals might share a fleeting glimpse into their romantic lives, making Instagram Stories a modern-day litmus test for relationship statuses.

The Etiquette of Sharing

While it’s common to want to share moments of personal happiness with a broader audience, there are unwritten social media etiquettes worth considering. The primary consideration should be consent; it’s crucial to ensure that both partners are comfortable with their lives being shared online. What might seem like a harmless post could be perceived as an invasion of privacy if not mutually agreed upon. The frequency and nature of posts also play a significant role. Constantly posting about one’s partner can lead not only to overexposure but might also set unrealistic expectations about the relationship. On the flip side, not posting at all or being overly secretive can lead to speculation among followers. Finding a balance is key as it helps maintain a sense of normalcy and privacy while acknowledging the relationship.

The Impact of Social Media on Relationships

Social media adds a complex layer to relationships. The pressure to portray a perfect relationship can be overwhelming and misleading. It’s important to remember that Instagram is a highlight reel, a platform where people choose to showcase their best moments. This portrayal can skew public perception and impact how individuals view their own relationships. Moreover, the validation from likes and comments, while initially gratifying, can become addictive. Relying on social media approval can take away from the authenticity of the relationship, shifting the focus from personal satisfaction to public approval. This dynamic can strain the relationship if partners value the opinions of their followers more than that of each other.

Finding the Right Balance

So, how does one navigate the tricky waters of Instagram etiquette? The key is communication. Discuss with your partner what feels right for both of you. Some couples might agree on not posting at all, while others may choose to share special occasions only. It’s also wise to periodically revisit this agreement, as feelings and circumstances can change. What matters most is that the decisions are mutual and each person’s privacy and comfort levels are respected.

Instagram Stories provide a unique window into personal lives, including romantic relationships. However, with this transparency comes the responsibility to navigate the public and private aspects of a relationship wisely. By respecting each other’s boundaries, seeking consent and communicating openly, couples can manage their social media presence in a way that is healthy and respectful for both partners. In the end, the focus should always remain on nurturing the relationship beyond the digital gaze.

Kaileigh Klein

Wilfrid Laurier '25

My name is Kaileigh & I am a communication studies student at Wilfrid Laurier University in Waterloo, Ontario. I am the Co-President for our Her Campus chapter & love everything there is about writing.
My career goals are to become a marketing lead for a large company and a published author. I love television & am a huge gym rat. I am also quite obsessed with Taylor Swift & true crime podcasts.