Dear Guydance,
So I am on Tinder and have met a handful of guys off the site. Most I hangout with a few times, but each one fades and that is that. Well, it is usually because they start dating a girl. I can’t help but feel like I am not good enough. How can I best continue to meet guys and become a top choice rather than being the optional girl?
xoxo Lonely Girl
Lonely Girl,
Okay, to start I’m not sure that Tinder should be your go-to in terms of finding a quality relationship. Try a dating site where guys may be more genuine than a simple swipe right or left. I feel like Tinder is used mostly for entertainment or to fulfill ones lusts, which obviously you are not looking for so I say nay nay to Tinder.
Stop thinking you’re not good enough either. I know what it’s like to feel that way but you have to rise above that and know that you are good enough and you just haven’t met the right person. There’s no telling when it will happen but don’t think negatively of yourself, take the opportunity to learn from these situations and use it to learn more about yourself and what not to do for the future.
It sounds to me like you’re not having any trouble meeting guys but it just hasn’t played out the way you want it. Don’t be too passive with a guy, make your interest obvious and that you’re looking for something but don’t greet him at the door beaver first either if you want something genuine. Once you put yourself out there, it has to come from him to show that you’re his first choice and he is genuinely interested in you. It should be obvious with his effort to hangout and talk with you. If not, then he probably had another agenda in mind unfortunately. Don’t you dare fret, keep being yourself and keep a positive outlook on things and before you know it some handsome stud will sweep you off your feet.