Ladies, I know that getting over a breakup is hard. You have all these new emotions, and a lot of them aren’t good ones, but eventually, it gets better. You forgive, you move on, and you feel so much better once you do. These are some of the things that help you realize you’re finally over it!Â
When it doesn’t hurt to hear his name anymore
We all know how painful it is to hear your former significant other’s name after a breakup. It hurts your heart a little to hear his name, and talk about him, but eventually it stops hurting. It could take three days or two years, but once you stop reacting to his name, you know you’re over it.
When you remember your relationship with him fondly
Everyone’s bitter after a breakup, and for a while we all look back on the relationship and wonder “what was I thinking?” You’re angry, sad, frustrated, and look back on what you had as if it was a waste of time. You only see the bad parts, but after a while you remember all the good times you two had together. Once you can get past the hate and remember the good parts, you know you’re over it.
When you can comfortably talk to him again
No, Snapchatting him to make him jealous doesn’t count. Being able to talk to him comfortably means that you don’t have to think about who you’re talking to. You stop seeing him as an ex or “that guy who broke my heart.” You can start to see him as a person, and maybe even a friend. Your conversation comes naturally, and you talk to him just to talk to him. Once it’s easy to talk to him again, you know you’re over it.
When you’re okay after you see him again
Ladies, I don’t know about you, but for about 6 months after my last breakup, I had panic attacks every time I saw him in person. I always hated running into him or being back in our hometown at the same time, but after a while, it stopped being such a big deal. I stopped having panic attacks, and eventually, I started to look forward to seeing him. Once you get to the point when it’s okay to see him again, you know you’re over it.
When you start dating again
A universal indicator for being over your last relationship is, obviously, starting to date again. As long as you aren’t dating someone for revenge, it’s a huge step to get back out there after a breakup. Once you can trust and invest yourself in someone new, you know you’re over it.
Have you seen any of these signs in your post-breakup life? Let us know if this helped, and how you realized you were over it!