We’ve all been there… single. Sometimes it feels like we’ve been single forever. You and your friend are on the single train together, until suddenly she makes a stop at the Cute Boy Station. You’re sad to see your friend go, but like any other vacation, you’re excited to hear the details of her detour. Sometimes, you might even be more excited than she is.
Scenario: Friend meets cute boy. Cute boy asks friend out for coffee.
1. You Were Desperate to Find Her Perfect Outfit
You’re both jumping for joy, and you’ve already run to her closet to help her pick out an outfit. It’s her date…yet you’re the one who is digging through her piles of clothes, desperate to find the perfect top.
2. You Need Her to Live Text Her Date
You know you shouldn’t interrupt. They’re getting to know each other over caramel macchiatos and coffee shop ambiance but you are too impatient to wait. You bombard her with texts. “How’s it going?” “Is he nice?” “Is he a serial killer?” “What’s his political affiliation?” She FINALLY answers you, sneakily from under the table, that the date is going well and she’ll call you immediately after. Instant relief.
3. You Gush Over Pictures of Him
She shows you a picture. Immediately, you’re screaming “HE. IS. SO. CUTE.” Obviously, you’re not interested for yourself, but it gives you hope that your friend found someone so cute and you could not be happier for her. At this point, you are definitely happier than her. She’s excited too, but she’s trying to play it cool. You don’t have the same obligation, so you freak out for her.
4. You Squeal Over All the Screenshots She Sends You
The longer the relationship goes on, the amount of cute texts increases and, of course, she has to send them to you. Sometimes the cuteness makes your heart hurt. I think we’ve all been there.
5. You’re Amazed By His Basic Manners
He paid for her dinner. And he walked her home, despite living nowhere near her. AND he held doors for her. It’s all so romantic. Basic manners are so hard to come by these days, it’s amazing she found someone who still possesses them. You’re about to fall over from surprise and happiness.
6. You Give Her Pep Talks After Her Dates
She comes back from her third date, both giddy and insecure. It felt like it went well on her end, but she’s not sure if he feels the same way. You instantly jump in with reassurances. He’d be crazy not to like her.
7. You Finally Get to Meet Him and You’re Freaking Out
After a while of dating, you insist that it’s time for you to meet him. This is your best friend on the line. You have to do your own inspection of the cute boy. You’re nervous. She likes him and you want to like him. You’re more nervous than you were on your own date (which, admittedly, was a while ago). You’re unsure of your own first impression. Your filter decided to stop working and your chattiness was off the charts. You try to be smooth, but it just doesn’t work out.
8. Cute Boy Approves of You as Her Friend
You worried whether or not he would like you. As her best friend, it’s important that her new beau be okay with you, because you’re going to be around. But you worried for naught! He approved of you and you approved of him and your best friend heaves a sigh of relief.
9. You Keep Asking for Details
They’ve had a few dates now, and the novelty is wearing off for your friend. She’s settling into the new relationship, but you’re still in the phase of high excitement. Being invested in your friend’s relationship is infinitely more fun than thinking about your own lack of one. After double texting her on her date, again, you finally realize maybe you’ve crossed the line.
10. He Becomes Her Boyfriend And You Are Ecstatic
And then….your friend has a boyfriend! The line is forgotten about, and you and your friend are both freaking out. You’ve ridden the emotional rollercoaster of a new relationship alongside your friend and you both made it out the other side.
Being invested in your friend’s relationship just means you care. Sure, you should maybe get your own life. But it’s so much easier to just live vicariously through her. Your friend has a boyfriend…now it’s her turn to support you through your own impeding new relationship.