Let’s face it; no relationship is perfect. However, there are some pretty telling signs that your SO maybe isn’t the right one for you.
You don’t laugh together.
Your man may be an A-plus hottie, or maybe has smarts like no other, but if you can’t laugh together, your relationship will likely falter. It doesn’t matter what the two of you laugh about, as long as you can get him giggling and he tickles you right, too. Humor relaxes tense situations and gives something for people to bond over. “Oh, you think that cats trying to get into tiny boxes is funny, too? Let’s get dinner.”
He’s mean to your friends.
Let’s face it; sometimes friends are loud, a bit annoying, gossip-y, flawed. Still, they’re the important people in your life, the ones that keep you sane, keep you smiling, and have probably been around a lot longer than your current bae. Of course, you can’t expect your SO to love (or even like) all of your friends and you shouldn’t be expected to like all of his. That being said, he should respect them to a level that they don’t feel uncomfortable around him. Being civil around your bff’s means he’s mature and respects the important people in your life.
He’s boring.
When talking about relationships, the word “boring” is totally relative. Some people can watch sitcoms for hours (*raises hand slowly*), while others need the wind in their hair and mountains to climb. Of course, “boring” isn’t limited to the actual activities you do together. If you find yourself zoning out while he’s talking (like, a lot) and have a hard time empathizing with his fantasy football teams, then maybe the spark just isn’t right. Again, being bored and finding your BF boring are totally different things, but really can flag issues in a relationship.
He doesn’t respect you.
Okay, this seems absolutely obvious, but sometimes it’s hard to catch disrespect. Parts of your identity are who you are, and if a man can’t deal with those parts, then it’s probably not meant to be. Your SO is supposed to be supportive and willing to learn from you, whether or not you totally agree with one another. Someone who refuses to understand your core beliefs, whether that is your religion, political values, or even sexuality, will have a hard time creating a successful relationship.
There are always going to be lists and lists of reasons you should or should not date someone, but the reality is; only you know when you’re happy and whether your relationship is working. Your beau will never be perfect, but neither are you and that’s probably why you get along so well.