So, you’re going on a date. Whether you have been friends for some time or you are meeting for the first time, the emotional roller coaster that comes with going on a first date is all the same. First dates can be scary, but have no fear: here are some answers to common first date questions we all have.
1. Where should we go?
One of the hardest parts of planning a date is deciding where to go, especially when you are meeting someone you have never met before. Even if you aren’t a regular dater, you should have a few local spots on hand that are centrally located and not too crowded. These are ideal characteristics because it allows you to spot a “blind date” easier in an emptier space, and it will be easier to talk to one another in a quieter space. Consider meeting at a local coffee shop, studying at the union together or going to a museum.
2. What do we talk about?
Nothing holds more potential for awkwardness than first date conversation. But never fear, there is a way to combat this! While it may sound a little bit overkill at first, it can be incredibly useful to come prepared for your date. Having a list of questions in mind to help battle awkward silences and make the overall mood of the date more relaxed. Instead of resorting to questions about their favorite food, or color; consider asking questions like “do you believe in ghosts?” or “what is the most interesting scar you have, and what is it from?”.
3. What do I do when I say something I shouldn’t have?
With the rise of social media, we have all found ourselves relentlessly digging through people’s profiles for one reason or another. The urge to look someone up before you go on a date with them can be incredibly strong, and it can get to the point where you end up realizing that you know their mother’s name, where they grew up and other personal information. One of the most embarrassing moments on a first date can be when you leak something you learned online to your date. Do not try to stumble your way through explaining yourself. Tackle the situation head on, admit that you looked them up and then laugh it off, acknowledging that everyone does it.
4. What do you do when they’re not who you thought?
There is nothing more nerve-wracking than meeting someone for the first time. What can make things more awkward is when you meet someone for the first time and they are not who you thought they were. If there is something unexpected about your date, such as them being a completely different person, do not be afraid to confront them about it. No one likes to be “catfished”, but if something smaller such as their personality seems different, give them a chance to prove your doubts wrong.
5. What do you do when the date is over?
When a date ends, there is always a waiting game to be played. A decision has to be made by both parties on whether or not they want to go on a second date. The best scenario that can come out of a first date is if both you and your date want to hang out again; however, that doesn’t always happen. If the time comes and you realize that you don’t want a second date, do not beat around the bush. Nothing is worse than being lead on. The advice for asking for a second date runs along similar lines as to rejecting one. Don’t be afraid to be bold. If they don’t bring up a second date, but you want one, do not be scared to ask—you have nothing to lose!
While not ALL of your first date questions may have been answered, hopefully this will help you lead into your next first date with a little more confidence!
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