Dear Real Life College Guy,
What’s the normal “I’m not crazy” protocol after a random hook-up? Do I ask for his number or should I wait if he asks for mine? Should I text him first, and if so, when? Is a Facebook request legit or creepy? What happens when I see him randomly on the street?
Sincerely,
What Do I Do Now?
Dear What Do I Do Now,
Random hook ups in college aren’t exactly uncommon. Sometimes they end up only being one-night stands, and there’s nothing particularly wrong with that. However, there’s always a chance that it could actually develop into something more.
If you meet a guy that you’re interested in, it’s always a good idea to swap numbers early on, especially if you’re getting the same vibes from him. In most cases, it’s not that weird to ask for his number, but timing is important. If you wait until the morning to ask for his digits, it definitely suggests you’re interested in future encounters, which might make the guy feel uncomfortable if he isn’t on the same page. So to avoid the potential awkwardness, try to swap numbers before things get steamy.
According to the unwritten laws of texting, guys are ALWAYS supposed to text girls first. I can’t really say I agree with that – there is nothing wrong with a girl being the one to start conversation. Generally, I adhere to the “2-text rule”. If he or she hasn’t responded to your initial text, it doesn’t hurt to send a second one, depending on the situation (sober or drunk, day or late night, etc.) Anything past two texts is certified clingy and desperate, straight up.
That being said, everyone has a different style of texting. Some people are totally cool with having texting conversations throughout the day, while others would rather not. Use your judgment to determine what your guy prefers, but when in doubt, play it cool and don’t text him obsessively.
If the random hookup was just a one-time thing, then there is no sense in sending him a Facebook request. But if you end up talking and there’s future potential, a friend request would seem pretty normal. That being said, probably don’t seek him out on Twitter or Instagram immediately – Facebook is more than enough. Keep it simple.
Overall, my biggest advice to give is to play it on the cool side. No one likes dealing with a clinger. If it’s meant to happen, it will develop naturally without being forced. Take things one step at a time, don’t get wrapped up in it, and drop hints that you’re interested when the opportunity presents itself. Best of luck!
Sincerely,
Real Life College Guy