With Thanksgiving break approaching, some college freshmen aren’t just thinking about the inevitable food coma they’re going to have or what kind of deals they’re going to score on Black Friday. For some of those who thought they could handle a long distance relationship, it means the Turkey Drop.
For the unaware, the Turkey Drop is a phenomenon that occurs at colleges across the country, where freshmen couples that attempted a long distance relationship decide that it’s not working out after all and break up. This typically occurs at Thanksgiving, the first major break from college; hence, the aptly given name, Turkey Drop. While it can be true that many high school relationships can stand the test of time, not all of them are college material. Here are signs that your relationship is doomed for the Drop:
1) He’s the reason you don’t go out- It’s Saturday night, and instead of going out with the group of girls on your floor, you’re going to stay in and Skype your boyfriend. At first it seemed like a great way to stay connected, but now you feel like you’re missing out on opportunities to bond with new people because your guy demands some one on one time. This can be true with couples that are at the same college as well. Staying in once and while is fine, but if you feel like he’s holding you back from going out and having fun in college, then it’s time to cut the ties.
2) He wants to know where you are at all times- At first it seemed really sweet, but now it’s just plain suffocating. If your boyfriend is constantly checking up on you to see where you are, whom you’re with and what you’re doing, that’s a red flag to let you know this relationship has run its course. If he’s constantly keeping tabs on you, it shows he’s not mature enough to handle the distance.
3)You don’t make time for him- Between studying for midterms, having a job and juggling the five different clubs you swore you could handle, it feels like you hardly have enough time to breath, let alone spend time with your guy. When girls pile so much on their plate, they sometimes fail to realize it’s their lack of desire that’s keeping them from hanging out with their boyfriend, not their crazy schedule. Thanksgiving break is an opportunity to take a step back from the chaos and question if you actually want to be with this person. Because the fact of the matter is that people who are truly committed to each other will find time for one another, no matter how hectic their schedule is.
If you’ve decided that your long-term relationship has terminal written all over but aren’t sure if Thanksgiving is the right time to cut things off, let me just tell you: it is. If you don’t do it now, your next opportunity to break up with him is before Christmas, and you definitely don’t want to be THAT person. Then comes New Years, and everyone wants someone to kiss at midnight. And then before you know it, Valentine’s Day has arrived- the least opportune time for ending a relationship. Do yourself and your guy a favor, and embrace the inevitable Turkey Drop.