I would like to begin by saying, with all the certainty in the world, you are NOT alone.
The term “love” is often used in places where it isn’t meant. It is tainted with false images of perfection, and faint memories of countless disappointments. But thankfully, it is very real. People easily confuse it occasionally with lust or envy, but nothing can replace the real deal. The hardest thing about love is putting it into words, but with this I will try…
Through your life you will have many different loves. You’ll find passion in hobbies, animals, places, and most definitely people. But how do you know when it is love? You start to know when it clears your mind. It takes over and washes your body in a wave of ecstasy that is so pure you know it can’t be fabricated. You realize it progressively as your love is what you think about as you lie down to sleep, and dream of it. You are certain when your love is what gives you the courage to face the day.
When you fall on it over and over, and it still picks you up.
When you hurt it, or make a mistake, and it learns to forgive and to grow along with you.
When you look to it when you smile because you want to share your joy with it.
That is love.
So with this, understand that love is not to be taken lightly. But rather, it should make you feel lighter. It should make you breathe easier when you’re lost and don’t know where to go. And it should share in your feelings no matter the depth. The most important thing about love is that it is not forgotten. People will hurt you, scar you, and tear you down but love is never to blame. We learn from history, especially that which we have created ourselves.
The best advice I can bare to you is to cherish what can’t be explained with a single definition. Love advice can be defined as a collection of anecdotes from experience, that are used as a map to guide the hopeful to their one and only, or perhaps their one of many.
Finally I will say, never stop until you find that love. Find what makes you dance without music, and laugh like a child. The one thing that can make you giggle even when you’re ready to set the world on fire. Find the flower in the rubble, and the sun in your darkened sky. It is not to say that there won’t be hurt or mistakes, because along with love, pain is real and necessary. The love that completes you should be the love that you walk through fire and come out together with stronger. Cherish this love, keep it with you and never let it go. Because the one thing that absolutely cannot be described with words is the knowledge that you have found the soul that was made to walk through this life with yours.
Never let someone tell you who, or how love. This journey is your own, and it is the most wonderful gift we are born with as humans. Use it to make the most of your short time here, and use it to make the most for the one you love.