It’s safe to say, none of us will ever be the “perfect girl”. We can try to have the whole package but there will always be something a guy doesn’t like about us. And that’s okay. It’s not like they’re all perfect. But it helps a lot when guys are more open about what they want. Of course, we ladies aren’t going to make any drastic changes, but it wouldn’t hurt for us to be a little more adventurous or try and understand our guy’s sense of humor.
And it’s not always easy to get them to open up, so when you do, it feels like you’ve won the jackpot. Well this week, you’re in luck. I talked to five different guys on campus and asked them what their biggest turn on/turn off is, and let me tell you, it was enlightening.
Matt, 20
Turn-on
Determination – “I like a girl who knows what she wants for her future…not someone who is lazy or dependent.”
This is a great one, and something everyone should hope for in their significant other. You want someone who has hopes and dreams, someone who is self-sufficient and isn’t going to school just because they think they have to. I think the word ‘succubus’ came up once is this conversation…
Turn-off
Unhealthy – “I need someone who shows she cares about her body, health and well-being.”
Tyler, 18
Turn-on
Humor – “If you can’t make me laugh then it probably won’t work out.”
Turn-off
Over-confident – “It makes you seem like a total snob.”
When Tyler told me this, there was a collective groan of agreement throughout his group of friends. Ladies, you want to seem approachable. It’s understood that some guys are just trying to get laid, and if you’re not into it, TELL THEM. Don’t talk down to the guy.
Geoff, 21
Turn-on
Adventurous – “If you can’t keep up with me then I’m going to get bored.”
We all need a little adventure. Don’t be afraid to get out there and try new things. Experiencing new things can open doors in your relationship and help you get to know one another.
Turn-off
Clingy – “Because I need time to be myself and hang out with my friends.”
Brian, 20
Turn-on
“Real” – “I like to know what I’m doing is right, and I can’t tell if she doesn’t tell me.”
Be real with your guy. Tell him your likes and dislikes and let him know if he’s getting on your nerves. Don’t expect him to read your mind and know what each and every facial expression is supposed to mean. Talk to him; say what’s on your mind. Don’t send those encrypted text messages. Be real.
Turn-off
Flirty (especially in a relationship) – “Whether you’re trying to or not, I still notice.”
Joel, 19
Turn-on
Sarcastic (dry sense of humor) – “I am and if she can’t handle it, it definitely won’t work out.”
Turn-off
Smoking – “It’s gross and the smell just cancels out any chance of me being interested.”
It’s understood that the habit is hard to break, but you might not know how much it’s affecting your ability to find love. Ladies, no matter how much perfume or body spray you put on, the smoke over powers all of it.