This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at WVWC chapter.
RLCG Charles, how do I get a guy to like me without seeming “desperate” or too uninterested?
—Clueless
Dear Clueless,
When it comes to guys, there are a couple of things you need to know. There are things you should and shouldn’t do to have the best chance with a guy.
Things to do
- Let him win you over!
That way you can be sure that, to him, you’re more than just a fling. - Make sure he knows you are interested.
Some guys hide their feelings until they’re sure feelings will be returned. If he knows you’re interested, you’ll find out if he’s into you. - Show him the real you!
Don’t be afraid to let go and show him who you really are. Be comfortable with him.
Things to avoid
- Coming across the wrong way
When girls are worried about impressing someone, they can seem desperate, needy, or dramatic, which can scare off guys. Try to stay grounded while perusing your guy, and, most importantly, don’t hide you intelligence, especially behind your physical attractiveness. Guys like your looks, but they’ll appreciate and respect your brains even more. - Being someone you’re not
Don’t try to impress a guy by changing who you are as an individual. Be true to you. In time, the right guy is sure to come along.
Things to notice
- If a guy has acted less than chivalrous as just a friend, it’s unlikely he’ll change once in a relationship.
- If he’s insinuated he’s only looking to “hit it and quit it,” say see ya later and bounce!
- If he doesn’t show respect, he’s not the one.
Remember: the best way to get the guy who’s right for you is simple… Just be you!
—RLCG Charles