I don’t know how word this exactly, but is it bad for a guy to be a “sensitive guy”? This includes watching romantic movies, holding my girlfriend’s hand and kissing her in public, going shopping with her, and remembering monthly anniversaries. I want my girlfriend to be happy, but I don’t want to seem any less manly to others.
—Prince Charming
Dear Prince Charming,
Take a moment to give you a round of applause, good sir! You can also give yourself a pat on the back!
This one’s the question of all questions for guys. Guys need to ask themselves this question. Every woman needs to ask herself, “Does the guy I like have the sensitive qualities that I’m looking for?”
The answer to your question is no. It’s not a bad thing to be a sensitive guy. It won’t be bad later today, tomorrow, or 100 years from now! A guy who believes it’s bad to be sensitive isn’t actually a guy; he is a little boy. I say this because it takes a real man to be able to put the woman he loves before anything else in his life. A real man, even though his bros might give him grief for watching a romantic movie with his girl, has a woman who thinks he is the manliest man in the world. Holding a girls hand in public and giving her small pecks around your friends not only shows that your feelings aren’t hidden… It also makes a girl feel like she’s a queen.
Being a “sensitive guy” doesn’t mean you’ve lost your man card. It means you’ve matured. One thing that bothers me, though, is that jerk-cheater-player guys usually have a better chance of getting the girl than good, sensitive guys.
Girls who want jerks have coined the following phrases:
- I like guys who are bad boys.
- I like bad boys because they are a challenge.
- I like it when guys tell me I have a nice butt.
- There is no such thing as a “good” guy.
- I feel loved when guys give me attention because of the way I dress.
- The only way I feel confident is when I am drunk.
- He said he’d changed and would never cheat on me again. I thought he loved me. (Then the girl goes back to him yet again.)
Girls, if this is the way you think, know that you are beautiful and deserving of respect from guys like Prince Charming (yes, they do exist). Prince Charming, never stop being true to you. If a girl can’t see how well you can treat her, sadly, she isn’t worth your time.
It doesn’t matter if a girl choose a bad guy over you. She is the one who is missing out. She isn’t ready for a real man yet.
Or, more simply put:
Bad guys = broken hearts
Good guys = butterflies in hearts
And, sooner or later, the perfect girl will realize these truths.
—RLCG Charles