Both guys and girls probably often wonder if theyâre a good boyfriend or girlfriend to their significant other. Gentlemen – and ladies – if youâre reading this, I hope your mind is set at ease in wondering if your significant other is a keeper.
1. A simple âI love youâ text goes a long way, especially when you know youâre busy.
Life is a combination of both the big and little things. Guys usually tend to struggle with appreciating the little things in life more than girls do. Send your girl a simple âI love youâ text to show youâre thinking about her, even when youâre swamped with school work or at your part-time job. The simple things in life show your girl youâre not taking your relationship for granted. Plus, girls like receiving sweet texts like that. Even an âI miss youâ text shows youâre thinking about her. If youâre a girl and think you donât appreciate the little things, maybe send a sweet text to your boyfriend. There are plenty of boyfriends who also love receiving âI love youâ or âI miss youâ texts.
2. Make her/him feel comfortable to be seen in public with you.
Tune into your girlâs emotions and focus on trying to understand her. You can also pay attention to her body language in order to help you understand what she may or may not be feeling. Some guys work out all the time in order to make their girl feel comfortable to be seen with them. But looks arenât everything. Whatâs most important is understanding your girl and being supportive as possible of her, whether thatâs helping her study or getting her coffee and food. Guys arenât one to show emotions as openly as girls, but ladies, you can also try and tune into your boyfriendâs emotions. For example, if you can tell heâs in a bad mood, try and make his day better by doing something sweet for him.
3. Put her/him first, when you can.
Gentlemen, I cannot stress this enough. Your girl will feel pretty special if (in most cases) you put her first. For example, let her have the last slice of pizza or the first sip of a drink on a hot day. The only way for you to be a good boyfriend is if she is a good girlfriend to you. Therefore, youâre bringing out the best in each other. Make her day better if sheâs had a stressful day and sheâll do the same in return. Girls, to put your man first, you can most likely do this by helping him out when he needs you most. Help him when heâs in a sticky situation, and heâll return the favor in the future.
4. Be sympathetic to her/his (and anyone elseâs) issues.
If your girl is having an issue, just be there to listen, even if you donât understand the issue. Just listening shows your girl that you care and that youâre willing to help her out if you can. Even helping out others in front of your girl shows you not only care about other people but are a good, genuine person on the inside and out. For girls, they can do the same. Just listen to your man and helping others in front of him shows you care about others as well.
5. Put effort into your relationship.
Once again, this comes back to cherishing the little things in life. Little things can make a big difference, especially for a girl. Personally, Iâd like to say Iâm pretty easy to please. You could give me a pair of socks with cats on them and Iâd be a pretty happy gal! But the point is to make sure you do the little things – clean the room or send a short and sweet text – for your girl. For example, if sheâs had a rough day, make dinner and then throw on a movie. Donât forget the popcorn and pajamas! The little things will make her day 10x better because she wonât have to worry about anything but just relax and spend time with you. Girls, you can do the same (make dinner, clean his room, etc.) for your man.
6. Provide an honest place for your girl/man.
Guys, being honest with yourself – and your girl – fosters trust. As a human being, I understand that uneasy feeling of whether or not you can trust someone with your secrets. Being able to confide in someone and be emotionally, physically, and spiritually intimate is one of the scariest but most important hallmarks of a good relationship. Trust helps foster a long, fulfilling, most enduring, and healthy relationship. In general, listening and talking with your partner helps build the trust between you two, as well as it builds communication between the two of you.
7. Surprise her/him.
Little surprises will keep your girl/man on their toes. For example, if she talks about a specific book she wants to read, you can pretend youâre not listening or change the subject. But later, order or buy the book and give it to her. Sheâll be surprised you remembered. If she says she doesnât want dessert, order dessert. She wants dessert. Sheâll most likely thank you later. Ladies, you could surprise your man with tickets to a football game (if heâs into sports) heâs been wanting to see. Surprises are very good and there are many ways guys can go about them in terms of size, price, or thought of the surprise. Surprises also show your girl/guy you were thinking of them.