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5 Things You Should Know Going Into Your 20s

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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at York U chapter.

1. Always believe people’s actions over words

You should believe someone if their behavior indicates who they are. I’m not sure how many times I’ve harmed myself by hanging around the same folks who have left me feeling confused and miserable. Second chances have their place and time, it is okay to forgive but sometimes you should probably let them go. Individuals are not who you wish them to be; they are what they show you. 

Having said that, I’ve come to the bitter realization that many friendships terminate in adulthood. Even while some of my friendships were enjoyable, I had to let go of others since they served as painful reminders of the people I was no longer attempting to be. You can be unhappy and grow out of your friendships. It’s important to watch people in life and how they act in different circumstances. While words may not always convey sincerity, commitment, or beliefs, actions may. This idea can help you establish trust and make wise decisions in both personal and professional interactions. 

2. Stop worrying about people judging you

It’s easy to become preoccupied with concerns about what other people think of us, particularly in settings like the gym where everyone is preoccupied with their own goals. In the end, people tend to be more concerned with their own anxieties and ideas than with passing judgment on others. Self-doubt might be lessened by realizing that their perception is a reflection of their personal experiences. Prioritizing your own goals and advancement makes it simpler to disregard criticism from others. You can concentrate on being genuine to yourself rather than worrying about coming across as boring or irritating. Comparing oneself to others is common, particularly in places like school, gym or anywhere else. Knowing this can make it easier for you to see that other people’s opinions of you could simply be a reflection of their own desires or fears.

3. Create a life for yourself outside your career.

Your beliefs can help you make decisions, so think about what matters most to you outside of work. Recognize accomplishments outside of work, such as finishing a marathon or perfecting a recipe. Investigate various culinary methods and cuisines. Every day should be approached with awe, seeking out new experiences of all sizes. You can develop a rich, varied identity that flourishes outside of the boundaries of your profession by embracing these facets of life. You’re a vibrant person with limitless possibilities; never stop exploring! You are not a specific class or job title. You are a natural energy that constantly changes and evolves. Don’t limit yourself to what you do or who you know. Continue to discover who you are via creativity and adventure, and let yourself simply be.

4. Please learn to prioritize your health

To avoid burning out too soon, make sure to always put your health first. Improving recuperation time, lowering stress, and increasing flexibility are all benefits of incorporating mindfulness with flexibility. For stress management and mental clarity, think about breathing techniques or meditation. Keep in mind that your behaviors from today will affect you later on. Making an investment in your health now will pay off later. No matter how tiny your progress is, acknowledge it. This maintains enthusiasm. By putting healthy habits first, you lay a strong foundation for later. Every year makes it more difficult to begin a consistent fitness routine and even more difficult to recuperate from a late-night drinking session. Establishing healthy behaviors will prepare you for the following stage. 

5. Maintain meaningful relationships

You’ll come to understand that relationships require effort as everyone works out their lives. However, it’s worthwhile to maintain relationships with old friends and coworkers. Since they have access to networks and ideas other than yours, your weakest relationships with acquaintances are frequently the ones that help you advance. Make sure you surround yourself with people that encourage you to improve. Don’t lose friendships that hold great meaning for you, but also remember to let go of those who aren’t doing you any good. Recognize that people evolve with time. Be flexible in your friendships and open to developing with your buddies. Treasure the experiences and memories you’ve shared because they deepen your relationship. By proactively preserving significant connections, you build a network of support that encourages development and enhances your life. Recall that it’s more important to have meaningful relationships that support your success than it is to keep a wide network of acquaintances.

My name is Lydia! I am university student studying Political science hoping to gain more insight and further a career in law. I currently play soccer and represent Toronto Fc unified roster team as well as partnering with Special Olympics Canada. I love reading, and my program particularly interests me from a writing perspective since I want to use this opportunity to obtain more experience. I intend to apply what I learn, along with the friendships and connections I make, to my future studies and other aspects of my life.