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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at York U chapter.

We’ve all been through a break up that changes us completely. This past summer, I experienced an end of a relationship that didn’t last long but ended pretty terrible for me. I’m the type of woman that puts others before myself. With the past relationships that I’ve had, I always focused on the other person more. My last relationship was a breaking point for me. It’s sad for me to say, but this break up made me realize my self worth.

 

For those of you who are into astrology, I’m a Pisces. We are lovers, caring and compassionate, among other characteristics. It’s a tendency for others to take our kindness for granted. I have been that way for years. At 23 years old, it was about time that I realized my potential. Because I was focusing on things that didn’t matter, it affected my mental health, time management for school, and physical health. Knowing this person for a short time, I was convinced that I’ve found a decent guy. However, I was wrong and because of that I changed for the better.

 

Many of you have been through relationships that left you heartbroken. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to be hurt. Always remember that you are good enough for someone. No matter how badly the relationship ended, never doubt your potential. I like to look at failed relationships as trial runs, the more relationships you go through, you’ll know what you’d want in a person. It took me a long time to get through to that point. I failed to realize that I’m missing out on the important things in life. I’ve come to the realization that I need to make myself happy before I meet the right person.

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I’ve decided to focus on what’s more important: myself. Some of us may be lucky enough to find our soulmate but before we do, we have to be content with ourselves. Nobody wants to be with someone who doesn’t have confidence in themselves or doubts their relationship. Work to becoming a better you and loving yourself because loving yourself is so important. I’ve decided to no longer focus on people who do not appreciate me. Being happy with yourself is way more important than finding a significant other in your early 20s.

 

Whoever is still recovering from a breakup, remember that there is always someone out there for you. No matter how many times your friends tell you, you have to believe it yourself. Believe that you are worth something. Even if your not going through a breakup, remember that you are a great person. You’re a great person that deserves all the great things that the world can offer. At the end of the day, we all go through options. Pick the option that treats you like a priority. It’s time to respect yourself.

 

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Wilfrid Laurier University Alumna - BA Honours History & Minor in Sociology and Religion and Culture. York University B.Ed. Her Campus York U Campus Correspondent/ HSA Advisor/ Chapter Advisor.  When I'm not leading the team, advising, or writing you'll find me watching any and every reality T.V show or re-runs of Friends and Gilmore Girls. Semi-classy wine lady who thinks pineapple on pizza is a crime.