Many pediatricians and primary care providers recommend a baseline, introductory visit to the gynecologist during a girl’s early teen years. After that, regular, annual visits should commence at age 21. Around this time, it is also recommended that her first Pap Smear and internal exam be conducted. Going to visit the gynecologist for the first time can be an incredibly terrifying experience, but it doesn’t have to be. I spent months working myself up over this appointment. In order to help alleviate some anxiety, here are some suggestions to consider from an older sister who’s experienced exactly what you’re going through:
Schedule your appointment around your cycle: If your periods are regular and predictable, aim to schedule your first appointment towards the beginning-middle of your cycle. This is especially ideal for the baseline breast exam, where the clearest results can be detected approximately 7-10 days after your period. If your periods are irregular and sporadic, don’t worry too much; appointments can always be re-scheduled. Also, some gynecologists don’t mind if you’re in your period at your appointment. Some doctors claim it may even help if you are menstruating for two reasons: 1) to help show them irregular or heavy bleeding that you experience, and 2) to provide natural lubrication to assist with the approaching internal exam.
Educate yourself: Unfortunately, women’s healthcare remains incredibly underfunded and under-researched. Fortunately, we all have access to the internet in our back pockets, which contains a multitude of resources with ever-evolving information regarding women’s health and wellness. Oftentimes, educating oneself can help alleviate some stress and anxieties. Make sure to look for authentic, legitimate, fact-checked information. Avoid spending hours on YouTube watching “my first trip to the gyno” videos, freaking yourself out because everyone seemed to have a bad experience. Seek out some answers to your many questions, then leave the rest for your doctor to answer in person.
Write down your many questions: This may feel silly, but I promise: it’s worth it. If you’re feeling incredibly anxious about this appointment (much like I did), there’s a chance you’ll forget to ask some questions in person (much like I did). It helps immensely to jot down a few questions prior to leaving home that have been swirling around your brain. “Why are my periods irregular?” “Why do I have terrible cramps?” “Should I start taking the pill?” “What about other forms of contraception?” These are all great conversation points to bring up during your appointment. Asking questions may also quell some fears and help you establish a relationship with your new doctor.
Relax and find some peace: Obviously, this is far easier said than done. It’s nothing to say “oh, just relax;” it’s another to actually calm down and breathe. Don’t forget to breathe. This appointment – and subsequent annual appointments – are immensely important to your overall health and well-being as a woman in a man’s world. No one loves going to the gynecologist; however, it’s something we all have to do at some point in our lives to help monitor our health and care for our bodies. Know that you’re absolutely not alone in how you’re feeling. To help individually prepare for this appointment, do some of your favorite things the day or night before: listen to music, take a bath, drink a glass of rosé, do a face mask, spend time with friends (or even invite your closest friend to accompany you to your appointment), and cuddle with your dog. Make sure to be kind to yourself, and don’t forget to grab a treat on the way home from your appointment. You deserve it.