Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the “boys will be boys” conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.
So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for close to a year and a half. He and I will be going to different colleges (an hour and a half away from each other) this fall as freshmen. I’m wondering whether it’s worth staying together because I’m a college athlete and he’s an engineering major, so we won’t have much time on our hands to see each other despite the fact that we really care about each other. Any advice? – Should I Stay or Should I Go?
I realize it is difficult to answer this question when you’re still in the relationship, but try asking yourself if you see the relationship as a high school fling or if you really think he’s the real deal.
If you do think he is the real deal, then even with busy schedules, 90 minutes isn’t too much of a long distance snafu. You just have to figure out how much you think you would need to see him to continue being happy in the relationship. If one weekend per month is enough (which I would think would be doable even with hectic schedules) then there seems like no reason to break up.
It all depends on how much you care about your boyfriend and how much you think being single at college will allow you to be more outgoing. I can’t count the number of times where I’ve seen people go to college attached to long distance relationships and not make many friends at school.
College students in long distance relationships don’t often make as many new friends as their unattached peers do. They often don’t go out with their dorm buddies on a Friday night, but stay in and talk to their significant other instead. If you do decide to stay with your boyfriend, it will be harder to crack the social scene. The girls you’re going to meet will probably prefer to get closer with other single girls to go out with and the guys might be less inclined to get to know you if they know you’re taken.
All that said, you just have to weigh the options. As an athlete, you’ll probably have plenty of friends through the team so you probably won’t have to worry about not making friends. So if this guy is the love of your life, I would probably lean towards trying to make it work.