Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the “boys will be boys” conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.
So I just transferred to a new college and met this really cool guy during orientation. We were talking and flirting the whole time. Then, after orientation, he Facebook messaged me and gave me his number and said that I seem cool and that he wants to hang out. Then we texted back and forth for a while. A couple of days ago, I hung out with him for a few hours. Afterwards, I gave him a hug goodbye, and when I was turning to walk away, he pulled me back in and kissed me. I like him, so I kissed him back. Everything seemed perfect, and I was so happy. But then… nothing. He hasn’t texted me, called me, or anything. Did I do something wrong, or is it more likely that he’s confused? Should I text him, or do I need to wait for him to make a move? – Clueless at Clemson
Clueless,
Text him! Trust me, if he’s a good guy, you won’t be scaring him away by reaching out and telling him everything you’ve just told me. The whole notion that girls can’t text first or can’t make the first move is so last century. Live in the now and text this guy!
As a hopeless romantic, I totally went “awww” when you described your first kiss together. I’d like to believe that he is genuinely interested in you and I would be very surprised if he just kissed you once and that was enough for him. Even the sleazy guys want more than that so I’m just as perplexed as you are.
However, not many men have the confidence to make that move after you’ve given them a hug goodbye. Therefore maybe he is the type of guy that is so confident around girls that he has a multitude of dating options. That is one possibility but since this is so new, he has no reason not to be straight with you. He ought to at least give you the time of day if you talk to him.
From what you’ve told me I can’t think of anything you would have done wrong. It all sounds storybook- and it doesn’t surprise me that you were quite happy after the kiss. What is surprising to me is that he hasn’t texted you. Sure, he may have his reasons for not texting you back… but if I were this guy, I wouldn’t be able to stop texting you after that type of kiss.
As I’ve said before, it’s better to find out possibly bad news then be left wondering and possibly never find out. So text him!