Need Dr. Drew relationship advice but don’t have the sensationalistic drama to warrant TV time? Unfortunately, Real Live College Guy Ryan isn’t a reality show therapist. However, he can provide the lowdown on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about college males: how they think, act, speak and genuinely interact with the women in their lives.
I recently started seeing this guy. We were pretty good friends before this happened and at first we were just hooking up. But then we talked to see if we were both on the same page and to make sure our friendship stayed intact. But now I think I like him more than I originally thought. How do I let him know I want to take it up a notch? – Not Just a Friend
Not Just a Friend,
What’s he doing right now? Like at this very instant? Call him up and see if you can get together to discuss your new perspective.
This isn’t something to mention in passing. It requires a sit-down and an emotional spill-all. Well, maybe not a “spill-all.” That would be too dramatic. But let him know how you really feel.
Be calm in your approach and give him the cut-and-dry crux of your feelings. If you get too reactionary and let your feelings out like an overflowing river, you’ll turn him off. Let him know how you feel and ask if he feels the same way.
If he doesn’t, take comfort in the fact that you let him know. Guys won’t typically pick up on subtle cues that lead us to think women genuinely like us. We can pick up on sexual cues, of course, but we’re almost immune to actual affection.
It’s that simple. Be straightforward and hope he agrees.
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