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Real Live College Guy: Was He Just Being Nice After I Embarrassed Myself?

My friend sent an awkward “I like you” Facebook message to this guy that I have been crushing on as a joke. After realizing that, I sent him another message telling him that it was a mistake–that a friend did it. I thought it would be so awkward because he is staying in the dorm next to mine, so I tried to avoid him. But then he invited me to his birthday get-together and I went. He was so chill and spoke to me for a bit. He’s a pretty nice guy, and I’d like to get to know him more. But I feel like it would maybe be awkward now to say anything to him. Do you think he was just being nice for the sake of it, or he was genuinely not freaked out by the whole social media incident? I guess social media is not such a great place to introduce yourself… – Crushed and Confused

Confused,

Social media is actually a great place to introduce yourself, especially if you’re someone that has a hard time with face-to-face interaction. Social media is actually how I met my girlfriend, and we’re great together.

I don’t think he was freaked out by the whole incident. I think he saw that friends sometimes do embarrassing things and, instead of being weird about it, he was super mature about things and actually invited you to something he was doing.

Your “in” wasn’t ideal, sure, but your foot is in the door. Own up to a silly thing, and it’s a great “how we met” kind of story if you two ever do start dating. Thank him for inviting you out, tell him you had a great time, ask him if he’d like to hang out again with just you.

It’s an embarrassing situation, but it really isn’t as crushing as you might think. 

 

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Dale Lavine is a 21-year-old college junior majoring in Media Studies & Political Science at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA. Outside of Her Campus, his words have been featured in publications such as USA Today College, Esquire, Fearless Men, CoolAppsMan.com, and The Commonwealth Times. When not penning his weekly columns, he enjoys hot showers, naps, Starbucks, and Jameson (neat). Want to know more? Need real-time relationship help? Readers are more than welcome to follow Dale on Twitter (@misterlavine).